First
Date Tips For Scoring a Second Date
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by Elizabeth McGee
Ahh, that first date. It could be a wonderful
thing or it could be a disaster. I'd venture to say that
there have been more disastrous first dates than terrific
ones.
Your first date
is important if you want to achieve future dates with someone.
Your first date may also help you determine that
you don't want a second date, but let's not go there. Let's
assume that you want to put your best foot forward and
establish a relationship
with your date.
Here's a few tips that will help increase your chances for
a second date:
1. Relax. Don't
be nervous. Stay calm. Getting tongue-tied or appearing
up-tight can turn people off. Pretend you're with a familiar friend.
Do what comes natural and don't try to be something you
are not.
2. Wear your
nicest clothes or buy some new ones! You've heard the old
adage, "You don't get a second chance to make a first impression",
so make it a good one the first time. Dress smartly and follow good grooming and
hygiene tips.
3. Try to establish
a common interest early on. This will give you both the
ability to talk with enthusiasm and will also be a topic
you can return to
if the conversation goes dry.
4. Keep it light
and casual. It's often a good idea to simply meet for coffee
or lunch. This often gives you time to get to know someone
better without the extended commitment of a full evening
out.
5. Don't tell
your entire life story too early on. Dating advice experts
recommend saving topics like relationship stories, religion,
politics, and other hot
topics until you know each other better.
6. Be interesting.
Granted, there are people who spend their entire lives
learning how to be interesting. However, being interesting
doesn't mean spouting lots of interesting facts and figures
or knowing lots of things. The most interesting people
I know are those that are 'interested'. Be interested in
your date, listen to him/her and show respect. You'll be
amazed how interesting you'll become.
7. Keep your
phone turned off, or if it rings don't answer it. You wouldn't
run up to someone and rudely interrupt their conversation
would you? Then don't let your phone interrupt your conversation.
That's what they make messages for.
8. If you're
out for an evening be careful how much you drink. If you
drink too much you won't be at your best. It's also a good
way to turn off your date.
9. If you're
a man always be a gentleman. No matter what you've heard
before, chivalry is not dead. Hold the door, let her go
first and always offer to pay. Not all women hold true
to these customs. Some women prefer to pay their own way
and don't care if someone holds the door, but she'll at
least see that you're willing to make the effort and that's
always a positive.
10. Don't be
negative. Focus on only positive things. Don't talk about
how much you hate your job or how much you hate your roommate
or how poor you are. If you find yourself turning towards
the negative then move on to a new subject.
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