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I Want My Ex Boyfriend Back!
Do
Not Do This When Trying To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
There are a lot of things you can do in an
effort to rebuild your relationship after a break up. Some
of them are smart and produce results. Some of them don't accomplish
much of anything. Others actually make the process more difficult
and can actually cause some damage.
Let's look at a few things you don't need to do when you go
after your ex. These are common behaviors that fail to assist
in the rebuilding process and that you should be very happy
to avoid. Women who fall into these mistakes almost always
wish they hadn't!
You
don't need to change yourself. Seriously. I know that
the instinctive thing to do in the face of a break up is to
change yourself in a way that you think he'll find appealing.
That instinct, however, is dead wrong.
If you attempt to make superficial changes to yourself, it
won't really make much of a difference to him. Changes in fashion
and appearance are the kind of skin-deep moves that don't really
have an impact on him as you try to get back together. If anything,
they send a message that you are desperate and nothing is less
attractive than a needy or desperate person!
If you attempt to make major life changes to get your ex boyfriend
back, it sends that same message of desperation. It also conveys
to your ex that maybe there is something very wrong with you.
After all, how great can you be if you're constantly trying
to re-invent yourself, right?
Making those changes also usually fails to work because they
aren't consistent with who you really are. You may be able
to “fake it” for awhile, but in the long run, it will become
obvious that your changes were an effort at gaming him, not
a real reflection of who you are. That certainly mitigates
any potential strategic value of changing yourself.
In addition, it
isn't honest. If you try to become something
that you aren't, you are doing a disservice both to yourself
and to him. That kind of behavior constitutes an effort to
rebuild your romance based on a foundation of dishonesty. Even
if you are lucky enough to get him back using those techniques,
there is no way that a relationship will flourish when it's
based on lies.
There are many positive things you can do to help get your
ex boyfriend back. There are also many tempting possibilities
that just don't pay off in the long run. Trying to transform
yourself into someone you are not is a perfect example of the
kind of behavior to avoid.
Stay
honest, decent and direct. Don't try to get him back
with tricks or chicanery. You can get your boyfriend back legitimately
without compromising your own integrity. That's the best way
to rebuild a relationship.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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