KissMeGoodnight Article Series: Breakups
I Want My Ex Boyfriend Back!

Getting Your Ex Back Is An Empowering Experience

Chasing after an ex boyfriend might seem a little inconsistent with what we usually consider liberating or empowering behavior. The idea of a woman going after a man, trying to convince him to rebuild a relationship, might seem at odds with our more feminist instincts. There’s something about the notion of a gal bending over backwards for a guy that rubs a lot of us the wrong way!

In reality, though, getting your ex boyfriend back in your life can be an empowering act. It’s all a matter of motivation. If you’re after him because you’re afraid to be without a man or because you feel like you simply must have that security blanket of a boyfriend, the criticisms do hold some weight.

However, if you want him back because you believe that the two of you are good together and because you have decided that you don’t need to be fate’s doormat, that is completely empowering. Getting your ex back can be an impressive display or emotional strength and determination, worthy of respect and praise.

What could be more liberating, really? There’s nothing positive or strong about being sad, moping, and accepting the loss of something that you could get back if you wanted to do so. The smarter reaction to the undesirable break up is to solve it. That could mean getting back together with your ex boyfriend.

Women who take action to get their guys back share a few things in common. They have the guts to take a difficult situation head-on. They have the power of their convictions and demonstrate a willingness to take a stand for something that matters to them. They defy the conventional idea of the “weak girl”, demonstrating that their action-oriented approach is a powerful way of reaching goals.

You see, it isn’t so much a matter of “chasing after a guy” or trying to do whatever it takes to appeal to a man. This is about love and your future. When you consider the context and the stakes, it seems silly to worry if you’re reinforcing some sort of societal perspective about the nature of relationships. What really matters is making yourself happy. That might just involve doing what it takes to get back together.

That sounds empowering to me. If you think about it, it’s probably one of the more empowering things a woman can do.

If the only thing stopping you from going after your ex is some vague sense that you’d be selling yourself out or denigrating yourself by chasing a guy, think again. This could be the kind of bold move generally reserved for the strongest people.

If you want him back, go get him. Rebuilding that relationship will undoubtedly by meaningful and empowering.

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by KissMeGoodnight.com : 2009

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