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I Want My Ex Boyfriend Back!
Does
It Matter If Your Ex Boyfriend Wants You Back?
If you want to get back together with an ex
boyfriend after a break up, does it matter if he really wants
you back or not? The reflexive answer to that question might
be “yes”, but it's actually a little more complicated than
you might think. The answer hinges on your willingness to put
forth an exceptional effort in the face of difficult odds and
in your own personal sense of ethics and morality.
Here's what I mean. In an abstract sense, you
can get your boyfriend back whether he really has thoughts
about reuniting
or not. This happens quite often. A guy who's completely sure
that he wants out of a relationship for good is persuaded to
give it another shot. In some sense, it doesn't matter if he's
excited about getting together again or not. If you want him
back and you use the right plan, you can have him in your life.
That being said, there are a few factors that you should probably
consider.
First, the less interested he is in rebuilding the relationship,
the more difficult it will be to get him back. Please note
that I said it would be more difficult—not impossible. Thus,
on some level, his interest does matter. You might have to
put forth an almost Herculean effort to resurrect your relationship
if he's dead set against ever laying eyes on you again.
Second, you should really consider the ethics of getting your
ex boyfriend back if he really doesn't want to give the relationship
a second chance. If you're using smart tactics and persuasive
strategies to snag him again, you might want to think about
what he really wants and how your efforts fit into the picture.
There are no simple answers here, just points to ponder.
Third, if he's hellbent against getting together again, you
should stop to check your own motivations. In many cases, efforts
to re-initiate a relationship when one partner is dead set
against it are motivated more by things like jealousy or to
prove a point than they are about nurturing true love. Are
you going after him just to prove something to him, for the
sake of revenge or because you feel jealous? If so, it does
sort of matter if he doesn't want you back.
So, does it really matter if he wants you back? Yes and no.
It will definitely make your work at re-starting the relationship
easier if he's an active participant! It also matters in terms
of your own individual sense of responsibility.
The bottom line, however, is that you can get your ex boyfriend
back. Whether he's excited at the prospect of hooking up again
or not, you can go from breaking up to making up.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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