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I Want My Ex Boyfriend Back!
Why
Do You Want Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Why do you want your ex boyfriend back? It's
an important question. If you aren't considering getting him
back for the right reasons, it probably makes sense to move
on with your life, taking a different direction.
There are very good reasons to rebuild a relationship. If
a relationship seemed valuable, full of potential, fulfilling
and rewarding, it's hard to let it go. That's particularly
true when you're absolutely certain that both of you were (or
are) in the throes of true love's passion.
Sometimes great relationships fall apart. When they're worth
saving, that's when it makes sense to spring into action. If
you're motivated by a loving heart and a deep abiding belief
in the value of your relationship, by all means go after him.
In other cases, unfortunately, women opt to pursue ex boyfriends
for the wrong reasons. If you think you might be considering
going after your man for one of these “lesser” reasons, you
might want to reconsider.
These bad justifications include trying to keep a guy merely
for the sake of convenience or “insurance”. There's a sense
of peace that comes with having someone in your life, but that
generic comfort doesn't justify toying with someone's heart
or missing out on your opportunity for real love.
Other bad justifications are even easier to spot. If you feel
as though you're motivated by anger, jealousy or a sense of
revenge, this would be a good time to take a few steps back
and to reconsider your decision to try to get your ex boyfriend
back. Those motives aren't very strong and they risk making
you do something you'll regret in the long run.
Take a long, serious look at what's driving you to want him
back. Are you interested in rebuilding your relationship for
all of the right reasons, or are your motivations a little
murkier? If you aren't sure that you're being guided by your
heart because you know the two of you were meant to be together,
you might want to stop yourself before you make any significant
effort to get your ex boyfriend back.
It's always hard to walk away from a break up, but that doesn't
mean you should never do so. There are legitimate reasons to
call it quits and there are times when your instinctive drive
to get him back might be getting a boost from some unsavory
motivators. Don't waste his time or yours if you aren't in
this for all of the right reasons.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2009
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