KissMeGoodnight Article Series: Christian Dating
Celibacy and Christian Dating

While most are all aware that Christians are under the advise and moral obligation to wait until marriage in order to have sex, can you still honestly say that there are individuals that are able to date in the Christian scene and remain celibate at the same time? Even those that have said they would wait until marriage to have sex have often not been able to adhere to that guideline that they had placed upon themselves. So what does this say about the Christian dating scene in general? Are people crazy trying to convince themsevles that there are some people that are still waiting to get married before they have intimate experiences with anyone? Well, maybe.

Like with most situations in life, you cannot generalize and make an accurate conclusion. Some people wait, and some people do not, but how does this help us to really think about the situation at large? It really does not. Some people make mistakes, and would consider having sex before marriage to be a mistake. There is an alternative to just feeling lost, especially if the relationship does not work out. Many centers are offering to perform born again virgin ceremonies, which work to cleanse away the mistake that had occurred. In cases like this, while some people are not practicing celibacy from the start, many are able to try again and practice celibacy in its entirety eventually. This does not mean that all Christians should, or would, go out and have sex then comfort themselves with this process as if nothing had happened. They are still required to come to terms with the actions that they have taken. Still, these types of situations are not like they were generations ago. There is much more peer pressure put on individuals in order to coerce the topic of sex. Not only is this unfortunate, it makes many people feel like they do not have a choice in the matter. The truth is that this has to do with the individual’s own body and if they do not want to do something there should not be as much pressure as there is to conform. Since there is nothing much that the Christians can do in order to change society’s views, they can still be particular about the individuals with whom they choose to date and interact with on a regular basis.

A lot of the trouble might stem from the coupling that occurs when someone does not share the same moral values as the other person. When the other person does not respect the other person in the relationship as much as they should, they are more likely to try to convince the individual to take part in something that they may not want to take part in. Instead of standing up for themselves and their beliefs, they may fall prey to wanting to please the other person, instead. When a person dates someone that has the identical moral beliefs as them, they are able to enjoy their time together and not worry so much about the pressure to end their celibacy. This makes it much easier in general to enjoy the other person and figure out what things they have in common and what things they do not, which helps to provide a more stable foundation for their friendship and their relationship in general. As a result, the two people will be much happier then they would have been in a relationship with someone else that did not or would not try to understand them and their perspective. This does not mean one way or the other that celibacy will be guaranteed, but it does help the individuals to be more comfortable in their relationship and with their actions.

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