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Article Series: Christian Dating
How to Get Over Being Dumped
No one likes being dumped. In fact, you all
pretty much try to avoid it in any way possible. However, there
are few things that we can do after this almost inevitable,
at some point in our lives, moment occurs, and this can help
us to move on in an entirely healthy and amicable way. First
of all, not everyone is able to be friends with the individual
that just dumped them. This is tested time and time again because
of the fact that many people will, in the same breath as telling
the other person that they want to see other people, say they
would really like to remain friends. Do not feel guilty in
saying that you need to think about it if you do.
Also, do not feel pressured to say yes, and it is vital that
you not say yes in order to keep your dreams alive of that
individual changing their mind and seeing the truth and running
back to you after they think about everything that they have
missed. One of the first things that the individual needs to
do is to make sure that they surround themselves with
friends and family that will understand them and help them. No one
likes to feel like a mope, and since you rarely feel gleeful
right after a breakup, you do need to be careful in order to
make sure that you are not too much of a downer on anyone else,
but also that you are able and willing to make sure that we
do not let ourselves stew in your own misery for too long.
Getting involved with people that truly do love you for everything
that you are and everything that you represent is one of the
most healing things imaginable.
Next, while everyone loves to play the “What is [so and so]
doing now?” Game, it is very important that the person
who was dumped focus on themselves. The other person is fine, we’re
sure of it. Not great, but they made this decision, so we just
need to come to terms with this and move on in order to make
sure that we do what is best for you and that you have the
time and mentality to go ahead with this, without letting the
other person weigh you down in any way.
In some cases, breakups are no big deal and in other cases
they seem to be life shattering. The degree to which one feels
upset will likely be very heavily dependent upon this. If the
sadness is overwhelming to the point that the individual is
not able to stand it, then they may be forced to, or at the
very least encourage to, go to see a therapist in order to
allow themselves the opportunity to heal. In many cases, this
need to heal comes as a result of not the other person leaving
them, but simply the individual’s inability to feel whole or
complete as they are. Instead, they felt reliant upon the other
person in order to function and feel worthwhile. As they learn
to embrace themselves as the maker of their own destiny they
will be able to learn that it is not the other person that
was able to make them feel so special, but merely the qualities
that they saw in the other person, which they may have felt
were not something that they could find in themselves. By learning
and growing, sometimes with the aid of a specialist, the individual
is eventually able to see the good and important things that
they had once relied on are very easily found inside their
own self.
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