KissMeGoodnight Article Series: Christian Dating
Long-Distance Relationships: Can It Work?

Some people may believe that long distance relationships are nothing but trouble. Typically, this is believed by the many people that do not want to try and do not want to put forth the necessary effort that would go in to trying to make such a relationship work. As presumed, in most cases long distance relationships are more difficult, but in a lot of ways they are simpler as well. It is all based on individual perception.

There are some individuals that cannot handle a relationship in the same town as a person, let alone with someone who is worlds away. However, in some professions this is an important and inevitable strain, even for people that did not think they would ever be able to, or want to, have any kind of long distance relationship. Business men and women are often traveling for their work. They may be gone for days or weeks at a time. However, there are other professions that require the individual to be away from their partner for extended periods of time.

For example, anyone involved in the military life will tell you that they have had to be apart from their loved ones. Some are gone for a month while others are gone for up to two years at a time. However, this does not mean that the relationship is doomed to fail and that there is no hope for these two people to stay together and stay in love. This just means that these people need to have some foundation set on who they are, what they want, and how they interact with the other person. The most important factor in these types of relationships is the ability to communicate. This is vital in almost every relationship, but especially in these types of situations. There also needs to be a high degree of trust. For individuals that are apart for so long and needing to rely on their partner and their honesty, this can be very stressful and time consuming.

However, when two individuals are committed to each other and have a special kind of love, they can overcome the distance and still enjoy each other and the relationship that they are able to have. The alternative would be for the individuals to not be together, and when this pain is far greater than the pain the individual feels when they are apart this is typically the kind of love that could stand up to the test of time required in long distance relationships.

The basics are very important for individuals that are involved in long distance relationships, and there are many people that really cannot cope with the stress and strain of this type of relationship, but many people should try before they immediately decide that they cannot handle it. Instead of failing, they many actually discover the love of a lifetime. However, they will still need to be able to communicate effectively in many forms. This includes but is not limited to instant messenger, email, letters and conversations that can be held on the phone.

Additionally, when they are able to see each other it is important that they are able to communicate with each other in person as well. When people can accomplish all of these different things they stand a better chance of being able to focus on the important aspects of their relationship as opposed to some of the more immediate and instant gratification aspects of a relationship that they cannot as easily have. Love does not need to be destroyed on account of distance, but the relationship will be tested right down to its basics and fundamentals.

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