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Article Series: Christian Dating
Am I Over-Dating?
Unfortunately, there are times during which
a person can over-date and spend too much time going out and
not enough time focusing on his or her own life. When a person
is going out seven nights a week, they will likely notice that
certain things are put on the backburner. However, some things
should not be allowed to be put off, especially if it is just
to go out on some casual dates. Even if a couple is serious,
they still need to understand that they will still need some
time to themselves in order to make sure that everything they
have to do for themselves is not being neglected.
If
you find that your own work load, home, school work load,
or personal desires are being neglected, which is leaving you
unable to take care of your life to the extent you would otherwise
be able to, in order to go out and socialize with one specific
or even multiple dating partners, it is very likely that you
are over-dating. Some people are able to dedicate all of this
time to dating, and are still capable of managing their otherwise
meager lives, but most of us have our own things to deal with.
Your
life just cannot stop because you think you have found
someone that is great and you want to spend every second with
him or her. By thinking about this logically, you can see that
if you let your own life slide for this person, if they ever
leave you, your life will be empty and void, since before that
it revolved around this other person. If you find yourself
obsessive over one or more people and find that you are thinking
about them more than you are thinking about the things you
have to do for you, you may want to scale it back a bit for
the sake of your own well-being.
Here is another
telltale sign that you are investing too much
time and energy in dates, and not enough in your own life or
in nurturing the relationships that you already have with friends
and family members. If you have ever cancelled long standing
plans with friends or family members, either because they did
not want you to bring along your new date for whatever reason,
or because your date did not want to take part in whatever
the plan was, it is very important that the individual realize
that they are not giving the proper amount of thought to planning
these situations since they are clearly taking advantage of
their previously existing relationships in order to try to
force intimacy and closeness with another person, instead of
taking care of their own life in manners they would ordinarily
take part in.
Additionally, if you find yourself being overly
forgetful when it comes to certain demands, such as taking care of your
plants or pet animals, you really need to get your act together
and fully examine your life before someone or something gets
really hurt. These are the things that everyone needs to continue
to make sure that they are able to look back at their life
and easily objectively review how their life is before dating
as compared to how their life is after they are dating someone
or many people either seriously or not. When a person can see
that their life is not where they want it to be, they have
to have the strength to see the truth and make the changes
that will need to be made in order to make their life more
positive and responsible when it comes to their own needs and
desires.
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: 2007
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