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Article Series: Christian Dating
Don't Sabotage Your New Relationship
You all know that one of the happiest times
is in the beginning stages of a new relationship. However,
there are also some instances in which individuals will automatically
try to ruin the relationship before it even has a chance to
get off the ground. In some cases this is because they
think that they do not deserve a good relationship with anyone
and
in other cases they just are carrying around too much baggage
to be successful in a relationship. So when you are looking
at a new relationship, you are often prepared to be critical
of actions that would be more likely to hurt the relationship.
From the outside, it is very easy to see hurtful behaviors,
but it is not so easy to identify why those behaviors are taking
place. Until the individual inside the relationship begins
to make sense of why they act in certain ways, it can be very
difficult for individuals to come through these beginning stages
of a new relationship without hurting the relationship in some
kind of major way. So the first step e will need to take will
be to you look at the biggest problems that individuals act
out, and by making them clear, the individuals that are inside
the relationship can make more active steps to understand why
they act in these specific mannerisms, at they are wont to
do in certain instances.
Over exaggerating things is one way in which a number of people
will easily and almost effortlessly ruin their new relationships
and set themselves up for failure. This can be acted out in
a number of specific ways. One person may simply exaggerate
a situation, with or without the intent of upsetting the other
person, and other individuals will take a particular point
about the other person which they are sensitive about and keep
toughing on the topic until the other person is so upset at
the unnecessary and exaggerated mention of this topic that
they will be sensitive about. This is not only hurtful and
damaging to the relationship; many individuals will actually
notice that it is completely not necessary in any way, shape
or form.
In some cases, the topic at hand is not even something that
the individual is particularly passionate about, it is simply
mean, and the other person will likely not stand for this type
of behavior for long, assuming they stand for it for any length
of time at all. You can also look at specific ways in which
an individual can make sure not to sabotage their own relationship
with someone else. The easiest way to accomplish this is simply
to be self aware. By knowing, intimately, how you feel and
why you feel this way, you can make sure not to lie to the
other person simply to spare their feelings and other things.
This is very helpful and reassuring for many people, simply
because they can avoid the habit of slipping into old patterns
or patterns that are not good and healthy within the relationship,
which will help to make sure that in the end the individual
will be able to stand on their own and share their life with
a person that they truly appreciate and feel good being around.
This is the goal for many people when they begin to get involved
with someone else. Very few people will start a relationship
with the intent of being miserable. By making sure to be aware
of these very simple things, people that are interested in
getting involved in a new relationship can make efforts to
ensure that they are being tolerant, kind, patient and honest,
while still being aware.
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