KissMeGoodnight Article Series: Christian Dating
Don't Sabotage Your New Relationship

You all know that one of the happiest times is in the beginning stages of a new relationship. However, there are also some instances in which individuals will automatically try to ruin the relationship before it even has a chance to get off the ground. In some cases this is because they think that they do not deserve a good relationship with anyone and in other cases they just are carrying around too much baggage to be successful in a relationship. So when you are looking at a new relationship, you are often prepared to be critical of actions that would be more likely to hurt the relationship. From the outside, it is very easy to see hurtful behaviors, but it is not so easy to identify why those behaviors are taking place. Until the individual inside the relationship begins to make sense of why they act in certain ways, it can be very difficult for individuals to come through these beginning stages of a new relationship without hurting the relationship in some kind of major way. So the first step e will need to take will be to you look at the biggest problems that individuals act out, and by making them clear, the individuals that are inside the relationship can make more active steps to understand why they act in these specific mannerisms, at they are wont to do in certain instances.

Over exaggerating things is one way in which a number of people will easily and almost effortlessly ruin their new relationships and set themselves up for failure. This can be acted out in a number of specific ways. One person may simply exaggerate a situation, with or without the intent of upsetting the other person, and other individuals will take a particular point about the other person which they are sensitive about and keep toughing on the topic until the other person is so upset at the unnecessary and exaggerated mention of this topic that they will be sensitive about. This is not only hurtful and damaging to the relationship; many individuals will actually notice that it is completely not necessary in any way, shape or form.

In some cases, the topic at hand is not even something that the individual is particularly passionate about, it is simply mean, and the other person will likely not stand for this type of behavior for long, assuming they stand for it for any length of time at all. You can also look at specific ways in which an individual can make sure not to sabotage their own relationship with someone else. The easiest way to accomplish this is simply to be self aware. By knowing, intimately, how you feel and why you feel this way, you can make sure not to lie to the other person simply to spare their feelings and other things. This is very helpful and reassuring for many people, simply because they can avoid the habit of slipping into old patterns or patterns that are not good and healthy within the relationship, which will help to make sure that in the end the individual will be able to stand on their own and share their life with a person that they truly appreciate and feel good being around. This is the goal for many people when they begin to get involved with someone else. Very few people will start a relationship with the intent of being miserable. By making sure to be aware of these very simple things, people that are interested in getting involved in a new relationship can make efforts to ensure that they are being tolerant, kind, patient and honest, while still being aware.

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