KissMeGoodnight Article Series: Christian Dating
How To Break Up when Dating Isn’t Going Well

There are a number of different people in the world that feel like it is perfectly practical to date a person until it becomes clear that the relationship is no longer fun. In many of these cases, the individuals involved will likely understand and have understood for quite some time that when it came to the big picture, they were not really all that compatible in the long run. Still, you may wait it out just because it is easier than coping with being alone. However, this is not always in our best interest. People that say that they can date for fun, and many have never understood. You am not really too sure of the point in this. Sure, they are a fun person to be with. But then can one not just be friends with that person, and not date them? Does it not seem far more likely that two people, if they really like each other despite the inability to co-exist in the long run when it comes to a relationship, would be able to stay friends assuming they never crossed the relationship line as opposed to two people that did cross that line and got involved in a relationship? Well, whether you know it or not at the start, there will almost always come a point where it is time to break up. The relationship just is not going anywhere, whether you knew it would not, or simply hoped that it would, the answer is pretty clear and you know what we have to do.

First of all, if the other person tries to tell you that the relationship could be more than it already is, and you know that it cannot, do not back down. Do not tell them something to the effect of all right, you will see, because this simply offers people false hope. When you do inevitably try to break up with them again, they will likely be even more upset than before. This is for the second reason – one person, at least, is likely emotionally involved in the relationship and is holding out hope that it will change and everything will get better. Perhaps they will sit there and illustrate to you in great detail how things will change and how things have to change. But if you are able to sit back and know that their actions are in no way aligned with their words, you know pretty much that you have to end things, simply because what they say and what they do are too different, and no one deserves that kind of treatment, whether they think the relationship will last or not.

Be honest. The biggest problem that many people will notice is that in many cases, there are too many people that are not willing to accept the fact that, sometimes, people just are not compatible. Whether they want to be or not, or try to be and aren’t, the fact of the matter is that they are not compatible. But rather than focus on this, too many people sit back and think, “Oh, if only we had done some things differently”. The truth is that sometimes, there is nothing anyone could have ever done to change the reality that these individuals are left with in the wake of their relationship. By telling the person anything other than the complete and honest truth, you are giving them the idea that maybe something could have gone differently that would have helped the two of you, when this is usually not the case. So just be honest and understand that even in the worst case, it is still better than lying.

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