The "Crossword Puzzle" Approach

Hello,

I've read elsewhere about the technique of reading a book in bars to make women approach the guy first. I've tried it, and it works to some extent. I do get like one girl a night to ask me what I'm reading. But it doesn't seem to generate romantic interest.

Do you have any suggestions on how to use this technique to its ultimate potential (if you think its a worthwhile technique of course), and how to generate romance once approached?

Thanks a million,

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Hello!

There are many problems with this technique.

First, reading a book makes you appear pre-occupied and closed off. That is, you seem to be busy doing something, and many people won't want to bother you. You want to appear open and engaging instead!

Here's another problem is in using the book as an opener to a conversation: if a woman asks you what you're reading, you could use that to start up a conversation. But then, it also looks like you're using that to pick-up women! This is just a little too obvious for most women.

Yet another problem is that you don't get to select the women that approach you - they can only select you. What if you don't like the women that approach you?

Here's a better way to use this technique: forget reading a book. Instead, get yourself a crossword puzzle!

You can spend quite some time working on the puzzle, and even ask for help!

For instance, you might ask the bartender for a 5-letter word that starts with "p", ends in "y", is warm, wet, and attracts men, (ok, just kidding, but you get the point). You'll be amazed at how many women sitting right around you will be happy to help!

Further, you get to engage them right away in having fun! What a great icebreaker. Of course, one woman isn't going to know the answer to every question, so you can get an entire puzzle-breaking team of women to help you!

Finally, all you need to do is close with something like, "Well, it's really be fun working this puzzle together. Give me your home phone number, and I'll call you sometime to have more fun."

Best regards...

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