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Dating
in Different Cultures
Hi,
I was wondering through your research if you found a significant
difference in people from different cultures when it comes
to relationships? As in their values and the way they see how
relationships should be. I'm particularly interested in people
who have been in North America for a long time and grew up
with the culture that their parents/grandparents came here
with and any other relevant info would be appreciated.
Thanks for your time and expertise!
------------------------- Hello!
Actually, what I've found is that people all over the world
in different cultures actually have the SAME values, wants,
desires, needs - and go about getting them in very similar
ways.
When I wrote my first book, "Being a Man in a Woman's
World" I wasn't sure how it would translate in different
parts of the world. What I discovered was that the principles
apply regardless of where the reader lives or is from. We have
readers in 72 different countries, and constantly get feedback
from them about just how well the principles apply.
Honestly, I was rather surprised when I discovered this!
I will say however that while the foundations
are the same and even the way people are wired are the same,
we often use
cultural bias as a way to reach our goals and this can differ.
One of the best examples I've come across is in the letters
I receive from India. I suspect this is due to the impact of "Bollywood" however.
If you watch movies that come from the Indian entertainment
industry, they are very flowery and symbolic. Likewise, many
of the letters I'm getting from men and women in this culture
take an equally flowery and symbolic approach to love and relationships.
This is especially challenging since these people want an equally
symbolic way to handle their issues.
This, by the way is another important part of the puzzle.
Our media have a lot to do with many of our biases; sometimes
far more than we want to believe.
Best regards...
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