Online dating tips and relationship advice from Dr. Neder...
Dating
Hell
I've been dating the same guy on and off for 3 years and I
think it's about time for a change considering that he
never does anything to make me feel special. The problem
is that I can't seem to meet a 'nice guy' in the city I
live.
I have considered moving however my career keeps me here.
What should I do?
-------------------- Hello!
I'm sorry that you need someone else to make you feel special
in order to have a relationship. If that's your standard, I
fear that you're going to go from one relationship to the next
never getting what you want. I'd hope that you would feel special
because you're proud of whom you are, but that's just me.
Just the
fact that you live in a city should tell you something. That
means that there are probably about
100,000 guys right
there in your own backyard. Now, here's the real kicker: every
one of them is a "nice guy". The real problem is
that women don't want to date nice guys and usually go for
jerks. I've made a career on helping these guys become the
guy you'd really want to date because I seriously doubt you
want a "nice guy".
The other problem is that you have no game; or at least you
have no game you can pull out of your back pocket when you
need it. Great guys are all over the place! I've already listed
a few reasons why you can't seem to find the guy you want,
yet they're out there just walking around. You don't have a
way of meeting them.
The interesting
thing about this is that women have a number of tools to
approach these guys that guys don't
have. One example
is just simply proximity. You can go over and stand just a
little too close to a guy you'd like to meet and 9 times out
of 10, he'll just turn and say "hi" to you. A guy
could never get away with that as it'd come off as creepy.
There are many other examples that I'll be writing about in
my up-coming book, "How Women Can Approach Men" so
watch my website.
In order
to find these guys you're going to have to get yourself out
there. They're not lining up at
the door so just go out
and be aware of who's around. Bookstores, coffee shops, restaurants,
car washes, community events like "Music in the Park" or
celebrations, parks, etc., etc. are all places to meet guys.
I'd suggest you avoid meeting them in bars, clubs and on the
internet however as these are the 3 worst places there are
to meet people.
The bottom
line here is that you're not sure who you're really looking
for and thus you'll never know
when you meet him. When
you do meet him, you're expectations aren't exactly reasonable,
(and you didn't even tell me what you bring to the table -
do you bring anything "special" either? Every woman
says they do, but in reality, very, very few do!) You're not
working you opportunities to meet these guys and have no system
in order to do it.
No wonder you can't meet guys!
Change these things and your prospects will change too.
Best regards...
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