Betting On A Sure Thing

Hey!

I have a question.

There is this girl I’ve liked for a while now, and I’m pretty sure she likes me, but I’m kind of a sure thing guy. But I’m willing to go out on a limb.

What would be the best way to get her to notice me and be interested?

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Hello!

If you're really a "sure thing guy" then do nothing! Don't do a thing! Stand perfectly still! Don't move, don't act, don't even breath!

I'm sure you get the point - there is no such thing as a "sure thing" with women. That's just the way the game is played. Of course, you want to play your odds and go after women that actually show an interest.

Here's the mistake that I see men making all the time - they put all their effort into one women thinking, "Oh God! If she doesn't go out with me, the I have nothing!" Further, they're right! So, don't do this to yourself. Start working the numbers. Don't just ask this woman out - get 3 others you're asking out too!

This does so much for your confidence that you're also going to greatly increase your odds. Remember, not every woman you date has to be a 10. Nor does every date have to lead to a marriage. Much of dating is just getting to know other people, and in doing so, you're honing your dating skills to a fine edge.

That said, let's look at this girl. Frankly, it's really as simple as just walking up to her and saying "hello". You just want to get a conversation started. Don't expect her to gush and say, "Oh! Hello! I've been dying to talk to you! ..." Just expect a nice conversation.

So now you're wondering how to start a conversation, (do I know my readers, or what?) It's pretty simple. Just think of something you both have in common like the location where you're talking (school, work, the market, on a train, the mental health clinic [just kidding!], etc.), the situation, (the weather, the instructor, the psychotherapist [again, just kidding], etc.), or anything else you both have in common. Most important: avoid compliments at all costs!

The next step is to simply end the conversation! I know, you want to make it linger on, but that isn't conducive to your goal - getting digits to take her out some time. Just say, "You know, I have to run, but I've enjoyed talking with you. Is there a number I can reach you at so that we can do this again sometime?". Then, take out a pen and paper.

Could it really be that simple? Yes, it is!

Of course, there is much more to all of this, and I encourage you to read, "Being a Man in a Woman's World" for a ton of other things you should understand to make all this work.

Best regards...

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