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Dating
While Still Being In a Relationship
Doc:
I am 42 and my
girlfriend is 42. She says I am being mistrustful, controlling,
and possessive when I say it is wrong for her to go out drinking
and having dinner with other male friends. She will not compromise
with me on this. Is it wrong of me to tell her that it is wrong
of her to go out on her own, drinking, dinner, etc with these
male friends of hers? She even says she has about 3 of them
and they are her age. She is even willing to give up on us as
a couple to have her way.
What should I do?
Thanks for your time.
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Hello!
Yes - you are being
mistrustful, controlling and possessive! How DARE you expect
her to actually treat you and your relationship with respect
and dignity! The nerve!
She says there
are “about 3 of them”??? That means that there’s at least twice
that many and maybe many more!
I suggest that
you kick this bitch to the curb, post haste. There's a reason
why she wants what she wants - she's actively dating! Some relationship!
Consider this (which
you probably already know): why would some guy(s) want to take
her out for dinner, drinks, dancing - and a bunch of other "d"
words - only to spend their money and time on a "buddy"?
You and I know exactly why they do this - they want to get into
her pants. It's really that simple.
Worse yet, your
girlfriend knows exactly why they're doing this too! She's playing
all of you and one of you is going to win - and it's not going
to be you! After all, she already has you, and doesn't seem
to care.
That's no "relationship"
in my opinion. It's a chance for her to go out and look for
someone new while she can still claim that she has a "boyfriend".
The fact is, women never want to be seen unattached. It's something
like the idea that you never want to eat in an empty restaurant.
I strongly urge
you to get back into your own hunting game and go find someone
that is respectful of you and your relationship with her. This
woman is NOT. If you need some help getting things going, check
out "Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II".
Best regards...
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