How Low Can You Go?

Doc:

I have a situation that I need to know if there is any hope of recovery. I dated a woman for about 3 years and then she broke it off. We were separated about two years and I initiated contact again. She said she still had feelings for me but did not want a relationship.

In the meantime, her best friend was telling me every negative thing that my ex would say about me and she would always call me and tell me my ex was a fool. By what she was saying, I knew the conversations she said she had were true. One night her best friend, who was visiting my city form out of state, called me over and told me the reason my ex did not want a relationship with me was because she was having an affair with a married man.

That news broke my heart! Anyway, the best friend and I had sex that night. She went back home the next day and after a few months she realized that my feelings for my ex would not change, (she had always known how I felt), so she called my ex and told her about us being in relationship. She lied and said we did not sleep together, but when my ex asked me. I told her the truth. My ex reacted as if she and I were married, crying and screaming; but all along she did not know that I knew she was having an affair.

So when I could get a word in, I told her that I knew and she got very quiet. That was four years ago. Today, she still wants a relationship with her friend, and not me, EXCEPT when she feels me ignoring her! She told my best friend a year ago that she still loves me and she forgives me but she still keeps me at a distance. She is still having an “on-again, off-again” affair with the married man. She even had an abortion of his child, which she doesn't want me to know about.

Can a woman get over the fact of a man having one time sex with her friend even though we had not been in relation ship for 2 or 3 years?

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Hello!

What in the hell are you thinking??? How low is your self-esteem??

This woman was sleeping with this married man while she was seeing you, and even aborted his child! It's obvious that "married guy" isn't going to leave his wife for your ex, but that's her problem - not yours! I don't care WHAT she says to you - even if she claims that she loves you. Is that really "love"? I hope not!

You slept with her friend when you weren't with her - you've done absolutely NOTHING wrong here and your ex has NO RIGHT to feel anything about it! In fact, it isn't any of her damn business and you should make that clear in no uncertain terms!

My brother, get your head out of your ass and start to see this for what it is. This woman is an attention whore and a BITCH. She used you, and when she's feeling down, she calls to use you some more! Kick that bitch to the curb and find a REAL woman that cares about you - your ex doesn't. All she cares about is herself! In fact, her friend would be a far better choice than she is!

Why do you think you deserve this abuse? Let me tell you - you don't deserve it. However, since you continue to hang on, your ex isn't at fault here for this continued abuse - YOU ARE.

Cut that cord and move on with your life.

Best regards...

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