How Much Should You Admit in Personal Ads?

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I have a question about creating an online personal ad. I stutter sometimes and I'm not sure if or how I should work that into my ad without turning people off. My friends and co-workers don't have a problem with it.

Thank you

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Hello!

I think you're making too much of this. I don't have real statistics on this, but I know that stuttering is really much more common than most people think. In fact, many people stutter more out of habit than anything organic.

So, should you include the fact that you stutter in a personal ad? No, absolutely not. What difference does it make? You should only include the good things about you in an ad - specifically, what DO you bring to a potential partner? Those are the most important things.

Personal ads are where you want to present your best light. You can delve into all the deep dark secrets later once you’ve got a relationship going. Think of personal ads just like any other ad. Have you ever seen a Coca Cola ad that stated, “Sure, we rot your teeth, but you’ll be SO COOL drinking it…”?

Here's another point: you're probably already aware that you stutter more when you're nervous. Spend time working on your nervousness and watch your stuttering reduce dramatically! You can use guided visualization and practice to accomplish this, or visit a hypnotherapist for a few sessions. You'll find great improvements can come quickly.

Best regards...

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