Online dating tips and relationship advice from Dr. Neder...
Learn
to Kiss, Damn it!
Dear Dr Neder,
I
have been reading your article on kissing.
My question is about kissing someone you've just met. As a
woman, I find that most guys love to shove the tongue in immediately
rather than starting off a kiss slowly. Is it ok to tell them
not to use the tongue or will they take that as an insult to
their kissing ability and an indicator that you don't want
to kiss them anymore? I find I have to try not to gag when
they do this because I don't really like things shoved down
my throat. I can't even go to the dentist without gagging!
What should I do? I want to enjoy the kiss but all I can think
about is how I might gag while I'm being kissed. I really don't
like tongue kissing.
Thanks for you help,
--------------- Hello!
I'm always amazed
at how many people - both men AND women - just don't know
how to kiss well. This is what I consider
a "dating 101" skill but many people skipped class.
Of course, this is likely because they've never been with a
good kisser before and don't know that there are certain skills
and techniques involved.
It's not an insult
to tell someone what you don't want if you tell them properly.
If you simple recoil and say "Ewww..." that
might be taken as an insult. But if you pull back and say, "Wait
a minute, try it like this..." and show them you're effectively
saying, "This is what I like..." not "This is
what you're doing wrong..."
This same skill translates right into the bedroom. If you
don't know how to ask for what you want, don't be surprised
when you don't get it.
You might also refer this person to my article so that they
can learn this important skill for themselves. By helping to
teach this person how to kiss properly, you'll be doing a great
service to anyone else they kiss later on. It's an important
skill that everyone needs to learn - if only they can find
a teacher.
Best regards...
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