Online dating tips and relationship advice from Dr. Neder...
Looking
For The "Sure Thing"?
Doctor:
There's a girl
in one of my classes who I'm really starting to like and I want
to ask out. She shows some interest in me but it is hard to
tell if she really is. She tends to laugh at most of my jokes
and occasionally I’ll catch her staring at me.
Sometimes I hear
and one of her friends mentioning these 2 other guys. I'm not
sure if she has interest in either of them beyond just being
friends although I do know she hangs out with them occasionally
on the weekends.
I want to ask her
out but I’m afraid if she ends up not being interested that
it will screw up our friendship and it will be weird being in
the same class as her. I had this plan that would help me find
out if she has any interest in me. We both just started going
to this club and I was going to ask her if she wanted to go
to the next meeting with me, which is in 2 weeks. I figure if
everything goes well I could possibly ask her then. What do
you think I should do and I can make her more interested in
me?
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Hello!
So, what you're
looking for is the 100% secure deal, eh? You don't want to risk
your "friendship". In that case, just do nothing.
You'll just have to be attracted to her from afar and realize
that you'll never have her because your "friendship"
is so important to you.
My brother, don't
be a jackass. Who cares if you "like her" or not???
What's the big deal? Being attracted to someone is a sign of
maturity, not weakness. How you handle that attraction is also
a sign of maturity.
Don't play games
here; just ask her out. It's pretty simple really. In effect,
by asking her to join you at the club, you're doing this; being
bold, confident and the "Alpha Male", but frankly,
you shouldn't even care what she thinks! After all, what's not
to like about you? If she can't see what a great guy you are,
that's her problem - not yours!
Get some attitude
behind you. Go on, it's ok - you deserve it. Don't worry about
what she thinks, just tell her that you'll take her to the club,
and then you can both go out for dessert afterwards where she
can "tell you her story". She's lucky to hang with
a guy like you!
Could it really
be that easy? You bet it is!
Best regards...
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