Love Is No Excuse To Be Abused

I have a dating problem.

I have known this woman for 1 1/2 years, met her family, care about them, was engaged to her although she broke it off, and I cant understand why.

She had known a man for about a year on the net before she met me, but when he came to town, she broke off with me, while she gave him $8,000 to fix a business problem she has. She has seen this man twice, and now it appears she may see him again, even though I believe the guy is a crook.

I love her dearly, and have been thru everything with her, and have loved her unconditionally. She has been married 3 times, but has always picked Jerks. She doesn't understand that I'm not like them.

I have a situation developing where I may leave in 2 days or two weeks and never see her again, although it will break my heart to do so.

Help!

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Hello!

If I understand you correctly, she has been having a long-distance relationship with this guy via the Internet and now that he's in town appears to want more with him.

My brother, I have no idea why you'd tolerate such disrespect. Oh, that's right, you "love" her!

What in the hell are you thinking? If she saw this guy even once, I would have kicked her to the curb, and just let her rush headlong down that path to her own destruction. How obvious does it need to be that this guy is only interested in her money, not her? He's probably thinking that he might even get a little pussy out of the deal.

If she's too dumb (even after 3 other failed marriages) to see this, do you really need a person like that in your life? If you have the opportunity to move, I'd say take it. Then, move on and don't ever look back, while thanking your lucky stars that you didn't get any further into this train wreck.

If you wind up not leaving, and still want to pursue this relationship, you'd better put your foot down right now. This is a good time to use an ultimatum - tell her, "If you ever see this guy again, give him money, or have any interaction with him in any way, live, through the Internet or even by carrier pigeon, you are 100% out of my life. No exceptions, no excuses."

Please don't sit by while she takes advantage of your trust. That's not "love", that's just self-abuse. You deserve better - MUCH better. Dennis knows!

Best regards...

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