Online dating tips and relationship advice from Dr. Neder...
Meeting
Someone Special
You've met many people in your life. How many of them have been
your ideal mate? Probably very few. You may have dated someone
very attractive, only to find that they don't seem so wonderful
after you get to know them. If you're going to find Mr. or Ms.
Right, you're probably going to have to go through a number
of people - possibly a large number!
Here are some ideas
on how to increase your contacts and find your partner:
#1: Decide what
you want in a partner. Most people spend more time planning
their vacations than they spend planning their lives!
#2: Be open and
aware of people around you where ever you go. You never know
when you might meet someone that fits your profile. Also, be
prepared to say "hello".
#3: Don't discount
any particular method of meeting other singles. Chat rooms,
personal ads, singles organizations, classes, etc., are all
good ways. You're going to need a large number of contacts to
find the few that fit your goals.
#4: When you go
out, dress! This doesn't mean that you always need to dress
like you're going clubbing - just dress decently. Don't go to
the store in sweats with your hair in curlers, and don't go
to the bookstore in ratty shorts and a t-shirt with holes.
#5: Practice saying
"hello" - to everyone. When you're on an elevator,
or passing someone in the street. First, make eye contact and
smile, and then say "hello". This is great practice
for when it will be needed.
#6: Let your friends
and family know that you're looking to meet someone. They may
know someone from work or socially whom they think would work
well as a match. Don't be too picky - you'd be surprised how
well your friends know you!
#7: Get a hobby!
By having other things you're interested in, you become a more
interesting person. As well, you'll find many organizations
that provide information on those hobbies and might meet something
through them.
#8: Be open - many
people unconscientiously close themselves off to others by averting
their eyes, crossing their arms, and turning themselves away.
Be aware of your body's posture and use it to tell others that
you're approachable.
Finally, always
protect yourself. Remember that the person you meet on-line
or in a supermarket may or may not be the person you first think
they are! Be open to new people, but don't give people your
home address until after you get to know them.
Best regards...
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