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Why is
Having Sex Too Early Bad?
Dear Dennis:
The
girls that give sex up front are getting all the guys, but
they don't seem to keep them for long. Guys view them as
a f*ck buddy type thing but not for a real relationship. The
women who wait a bit to give out sex live most of their lives
lonely, but end up marrying the guy at the very end, but are
alone and depressed most of their lives.
Is there any way to strike a balance here?
---------------------- Hello!
Where did you get the idea that girls that go for sex early
on don't keep guys? In my experience and according to my own
research, it's the girls that try to hold out too long that
lose guys.
If you're
find this is happening to you and your friends, it's because
you're not getting investments
back from your
sex partners. You're doing dumb things like "hanging out" together
rather than dating; and probably doing 1001 other bad-idea
things along the way.
The balance
comes in first realizing that sex is its own benefit as well
as a connection between you and
a partner. It's based
on that connection (and notice I didn't say "relationship")
that this comes about. The relationship comes later on, but
there has to be some foundation for having sex if you want
more than just the sex itself.
Best regards...
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