Online dating tips and relationship advice from Dr. Neder...
When the
Rules Change - She Lost Interest
I've been seeing this girl for 3 weeks now. We recently bumped
into each other at a get together and were childhood sweethearts
- big crushes on each other!
Just a few days ago we where at a bar and her roommate introduced
her to a friend and he instantly started hitting on her, right
in front of me! I waited until he left and told her that it
was very uncomfortable for me and asked her if she even wanted
me there. We went home that night together, but she didn't
say a word, and I just slept there - nothing happened.
The next morning she made it seem like everything was alright,
but when she gave me a ride home I went for the hug and kiss
as we have done a few times before but she backed off on the
kiss, and didn't say anything and just took off.
One day things where going great the next she's giving me
the hint of not wanting anything! What's the reason for this?
Do you think she's just scared of getting involved with someone
?
----------------- Hello!
No, this has nothing to do with being scared of getting involved.
What probably happened was that when she was
introduced to this guy and he started hitting on her with
you right there,
you looked like a pussy to her since you did nothing to deflect
this "game buster" (from my book, "Being a Man
in a Woman's World II".) This guy just totally stole your
game!
Then, you came off as even weaker by asking her if she even
wanted you there!
It's your job to protect your own turf! If you had stood up
to him and not let him weasel into your game like that, she'd
have been very impressed and trust me, you'd be getting than
just a good-night kiss!
What you need to understand is that almost all women want
to feel love. In order to feel love however, they have to feel
safe and secure. Do you think that just leaving this girl out
to fend for herself makes her feel safe and secure? Of course
not.
She lost respect for you at that instant and because of it,
also lost interest in you.
Don't EVER let some other guy (or girl for that matter - not
even her own friends) come in and bust up your game with any
girl!
Best regards...
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