Subliminal Types and Hypnosis

Doctor:

I recently spoke to a friend who said attracting stunning desirable women was purely a matter of attitude – looks meant nothing. The only reason some pretty women are considered out of someone’s league is that most guys don't approach these ladies. So, according to my friend, the solution is to just believe that no one is out of your league!

My question is this: can subliminal tapes, self-hypnosis, etc., work to help develop this confidence? There has been a lot of talk, and I’ve seen a lot of advertising regarding this. I was wandering if dating insider has ever considered or used them personally.

I would greatly appreciate your perspective on this.

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Hello!

Your question is something I happen to know a great deal about – hypnosis, as I’ve studied hypnotherapy! Thus, I feel quite qualified to answer this.

First, let's deal with the issue of beautiful women. You're right that most guys are afraid to approach them. I can tell you that in general they (beautiful women) have very low self-esteems! One reason for this is that men DON'T approach them; as stupid as that sounds!

Here's one of the tacks that I use regularly. When I go to a party, a bar, or anywhere that there are a lot of women, I find the most attractive woman there and go say "hello" to her first. I get this out of the way. I do this because I know that nobody else will do this. Instantly I'm the guy that actually TALKED to her rather than just ogling her from afar! Believe me, I know this works as I've dated some of the most beautiful girl you can imagine - and I'm just an average guy.

The problem most guys have is confidence - this is the 2nd most common issue I deal with. Let's face it - everyone is afraid of getting shot down. But, some of us have turned it from a devastating experience into a game. Here's where hypnosis can help.

I have an article on my website that discusses creating confidence with self-hypnosis, so I won't go into it very deeply here. Instead check out: Confidence Through Self-Hypnosis. If you work these steps consistently and with commitment, they WILL work.

But, what about subliminal tapes?

The jury is still out on subliminal tapes. Frankly, there just hasn't been enough research on the subject. I don't care what the ads say on late-night cable TV; there is still no acceptable scientific proof that these tapes actually work.

Part of the reason why we're not sure about them is that hypnotists are beginning to understand that many "subjects" take information into their brains in different ways. Thus, you have to change the message for different "suggestibility types". There is no determination about your "type" when you order these tapes, and thus, you're getting the exact same message that everyone else gets.

If you're going to invest in tapes, be sure to:

1) Only buy from a reputable source that offers a number of other products - and that allows you to return the tapes if you're not satisfied.

2) Get a written transcript of the subliminal message! This is the only way you can be sure that you're actually getting a message that fits your needs.

3) Use them as you're directed.

4) Give them some time - nothing is going to work on 1, 2 or even 3 listenings.

Finally, even if the tapes don't give you exactly what you're looking for, the soothing, comforting music, or the sound of the ocean should make for a nice, restful sleep.

Best regards...

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