The Angry Golddigger

Dr. Neder:

I'm a female college student and I think there is nothing wrong with wanting the person your going out with to pay. Every woman out here is looking for men with money. If you’re a "sucker" than why not use him.

Every man has a goal like the woman has a goal. His goal may be for sex and hers for money; it's all about who reaches that goal first. It seems to be the only men complaining are the broke ones. Evidently you are broke also, with a quarter date, please!! If the woman you were with weren’t a gold digger she probably would still move on because that would be one sorry date. Your basically making her feel that she is worth nothing. But I understand, your nothing but an mere author who writes for an sex page, oh yeah you wrote a book too that I've never heard of. So I understand why you're upset.

It seems to me that men can't take the punches they give out. In the past men would cheat on women or sleep with a numerous amount of women and get praised. Men would only use us for our bodies(sex) or seen us as their slaves. We are so much more than that. God made Eve from Adams ribs not is feet and not his head. So we are not beneath you all or above you. We ask that you show some respect, because if it weren't for women you men would not be here.

But its pay back time, we have had enough barring the burdens men create. So strap up and get ready for the ride because what goes around comes around, but you men seem not to be able to deal with it. We have dealt with and took it as a lesson learned and moved on. But no, no, no, you men are sitting around crying and whining like a bunch of babies. If your not a sucker don't worry about it, but if you are then be prepared to be used some men like that. But those house wife days are over. It’s a new day and age and I suggest you get with the program.

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Hello!

Thanks for your comments regarding my article.

You are obviously a woman's studies moron! How can you in one breath say it's ok for you - or any woman - to work a "sucker" (your words), just because he doesn't know any better and then demand respect in another? You are the exact woman I teach my students to expose and to then avoid.

Interestingly, I live very well - something that you'll never know. My relationships with women are incredible with both parties very happy and fulfilled - again, something you'll never know. I actually view women as my equal in many ways, my lesser in some and my better in others. You are an example of someone that is easily my lesser in just about every area other than sitting down to pee, and popping out little bastards!

Honey, going through life as an angry femi-nazi is no way to live. You are denying yourself some great opportunities because you lack both wisdom and understanding. This is a good time to go look in a mirror. That reflection you see is the best you're ever going to look! It's those looks that will be the only thing you'll have going for you from here on in. Believe me, in 10 years (not a very long time), you're going to start fading pretty fast. Gravity is no friend to women! You'll have popped out a few kids by that time and your breasts and ass are going to be heading south and dragging on the ground.

Now, look around you at the guys your own age. While they are just starting out, they are going to be getting better and better! They will increase their income, their positions, their knowledge, their power and capability. In 10 years, they are going to have learned how to deal with golddiggers like you by NOT giving you anything and you'll just be alone and sad. Does that sound like a bleak future? It is! All because you insist on remaining ignorant.

Being in college is obviously no cure for this either! Your spelling, grammar and use of the language bears that out; but worse, your attitude will actually prevent you from learning what you need to in order to succeed in life (as proven by your letter to me), and will just be a time-passer until you find some guy to knock you up.

Keep in mind that if it weren't for men, you wouldn't be here either. Neither sex is better than the other, but individuals differ greatly. Let's compare your accomplishments and mine and draw a ledger. Then we'll have something intelligent to speak about.

Oh wait, that's unfair, you say? Yes, so is life, and you're going to find out the hard way.

Best regards...

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