Spotting & Avoiding The "Attention Whore"

[ Note: I get a lot of mail asking about the “Attention Whore”. This article should help to answer many of those questions about just who this women is, how she works, and how to deal with her.]

Doctor:

I read your article about the "attention whore" bitch and would like to know more about her.

First, how do you distinguish an AW from a serious lady?

Second, what emergency precautions should a person take in case they encounter one?

Third, is there a way to turn the tables on one of these so as to make her want to get into a relationship? How?

I really want to know more about this bitch!

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Hello!

The Attention Whore makes herself obvious to you by trying to control and manipulate. For example, she comes on strong to get your attention; she flirts, she drops hints, she tries to make you feel that she’s over-eager to be with you, and when you respond, she immediately pulls away. She's very, very good at making you feel like she's interested in you and will let you spend your time and money on her, but as soon as you start wanting something more, she'll act like you're out of your mind - she didn't do anything to lead you on!

Emergency precautions? The most important is to make sure that every bit of attention, time, or anything else you spend on her is always weighed against what she's done for you first. When uninformed men encounter the AW, they usually play right into her attention grabbing antics. They start giving her exactly what she wants – their attention. Of course, this woman is a master at trying to extract the maximum value from men that she can.

As she starts to pull away, these guys stupidly make the mistake of escalating their attention - even to the point of giving gifts, taking her on trips, taking her out to plays and concerts, etc., all in an attempt to impress her and buy their way into her pants. The AW knows this is coming and plays it to the hilt. Then, when the guy gets angry and starts expecting something from her, she treats the guy like she was innocent all along! They’ll often use phrases like, “I TOLD you we were just friends!” These women are experts at keeping this game going, and target men that are unsuspecting, willing victims.

Turning the tables on one of these is simply a matter of accounting. Watch your ledger very closely. For everything you do for her, there should be a commensurate return. Consider this: if you were in a relationship with a "nice girl", wouldn't she try to make you feel loved and special just like you do her? Of course! Especially when two people meet that are interested in each other, both go out of their way to make the other one feel special. They use all of the tools at their disposal. They are especially concerned about returning the love, attention, and consideration they receive.

The attention whore consumes without producing anything. She knows her victim usually has low self-esteem and makes the most of it.

So, what’s the bottom line? Simple: avoid the attention whore – she only exists because men allow her to!

Best regards...

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