KissMeGoodnight
eRomance Series: Passionate Relationships
Secrets Revealed To Red-Hot,
Lasting Relationships
( 20 pages )
1.
Start Over
When couples
first get together, everything is new and exciting. They overlook
the little annoying things the other person does. However,
after time, the nagging starts, instead of hearing, “You look
beautiful,” they might hear “Why are you wearing that shirt?”
If this sounds like your relationship, first, the two of you
need to sit down and be honest that things have changed. Identify
the things each other did in the beginning of the relationship
that created the attraction in the first place. Then together,
make a commitment to start over. The truth is, both of you
will have to work on this. It will not automatically be easy
but it is possible. Start by forgiving each other, forgetting
the past, and then start over with the flirtation. Focus only
on the special things your mate does and relearn to put the
unimportant things aside. It will take some time so be patient.
2.
Schedule Time
Spending quality
time together is crucial. This time can be with friends, dining
out, attending a sporting event, or cuddling together while
watching a favorite movie. The activity is not what is important
but the fact that you are together, doing something that you
both enjoy. People have extremely busy schedules and between
work, family, the home, errands, and everything else going
on, finding time for your mate can be difficult. Just as you
would schedule a meeting on your calendar, show some courtesy
in the relationship by scheduling time with each other. Once
the plan is in place, no backing out unless you have some
life and death emergency.
3.
The Power of Touch
When a child
is ill, doctors will tell you that it is proven that a simple,
loving touch of a parent can quickly pull the child through
a crisis. It is the same for relationships. Playing with your
mate’s hair, rubbing their hand, a soft kiss on the neck,
a soft pat on the leg or giving a gentle back rub will make
a huge difference in how your mate responds to you. When was
the last time you walked up to your mate for no reason and
without saying a word, affectionately placed a kiss on their
neck? This is not in a sexual way, but an affectionate way.
There is a difference. The next time the two of you are sitting
in the car, at the grocery story, or standing in line at the
theater, quietly reach over and take their hand. Do not be
surprised if you get a strange look of curiosity the first
time!
4.
Surprise
If you and your
mate have scheduled some time for a Friday night dinner, put
together a surprise instead. For example, if your mate loves
professional wrestling, buy some tickets near the front or
if they like concerts, purchase the tickets ahead of time,
getting the best seats possible. When Friday night comes around,
insist on driving and head toward the location where the event
is taking place. When asked where you are going, simply answer,
“I have a surprise for you. I know you love professional wrestling
so I purchased two great seats for tonight’s performance,”
or “I know we had planned on going to dinner, but I wanted
to surprise you with something special. I purchased tickets
to see one of your favorite groups in concert.” The idea of
you getting the tickets for something THEY like and then keeping
it as a special surprise will touch the heart!
5.
Needed Space
As important
as it is to spend quality time together, it is equally important
to give each other time to do something they like. If your
mate loves to fish but you have no desire to bait a hook with
little, slimy worms, or if you like to go to the casino but
your mate would rather do something different, encourage each
other to take time apart. Try establishing a set time for
this very purpose, if possible. For example, perhaps you could
determine that every other Friday night is “singles” night.
This is not a time to date other people, but to enjoy preferred
activities. Remember that you have to place trust in your
relationship. If you try this and then drill them, to see
what they did, whom they were with, and where they went, then
the exercise has failed.
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- Relationship
secrets 1 - 5: start over, the power of touch & surprises
- Relationship
secrets 6
- 10: filler talk, predictability & lighten
up
- Relationship
secrets 11
- 15: communicate, a night of passion & secret
getaway
- Relationship
secrets 16
- 20: special greeting, cuddle time & breakfast
in bed
- Relationship
secrets 21
- 25: compliments, kissing & being kind
- Relationship
secrets 26
- 30: listen, be a kid, show love & responsibility
- Relationship
secrets 31
- 35: saying your sorry, be yourself & expectations
- Relationship
secrets 36
- 40: baggage, do not repeat & a memory box
- Relationship
secrets 41
- 45: anger, how you talk, making love & turn
the computer off
- Relationship
secrets 46
- 50: money, forgiveness & family ties
- Relationship
secrets 51
- 55: favorite meal, a pet & something handmade
- Relationship
secrets 56
- 60: a walk in the park, name a star, & scavenger
hunt
- Relationship
secrets 61
- 65: photo album, gift giving & a day at
the spa
- Relationship
secrets 66
- 70: thunderstorms, jealousy & keep in touch
- Relationship
secrets 71
- 75: special music, new adventures & motivate
each other
- Relationship
secrets 76
- 80: embrace change, board games & no interference
- Relationship
secrets 81
- 85: follow your instincts, be creative & change
routines
- Relationship
secrets 86
- 90: dance, sunrise/sunset & privacy
- Relationship
secrets 91
- 95: abuse, start a journal & be flexible
- Relationship
secrets 96
- 101: no excuses, spirituality & friendships
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