KissMeGoodnight
eRomance Series:
Secrets Revealed To Red-Hot,
Lasting
Relationships
( 20 pages )
6.
No Debates
If you know that
you and your mate have proven differences in opinion on certain
subjects, avoid those subjects. As an example, if you are
a Republican and your mate is a Democrat, politics should
probably be avoided. As the two of you identify new topics
that could cause a debate session, stop the conversation before
it even gets started.
7.
Filler Talk
If you are married,
especially with children, break out of the habit of talking
about nothing. Many times, families will be sitting around
the dinner table and the conversation consists of, “Do you
like your carrots?”, or “I wonder what is on TV tonight?”
Instead, change your strategy to include real questions, showing
real interest. Replace the normal, “Did you have a good day
at work?” with “Tell me what you did at work today.” Even
if you do not understand everything being said, listen with
interest. It is not that you are so much interested in the
work, but your mate’s life.
8.
Re-establish Old Traditions
If you and your
mate had a tradition of some kind when you first got together,
dust it off and breathe life back into it. Perhaps you met
after work on Friday at the local pub for a drink, washed
your cars together every Saturday morning, or attended church
together on Sunday. Whatever it was, re-establish the tradition.
9.
Predictability
If asking couples
the factors involved in the demise of their relationship,
one of the common responses is that everything in the relationship
is so predictable. When rebuilding a relationship, do not
be afraid of letting go of boredom. If you normally hate the
fact that Saturday afternoons consist of your mate sitting
for hours watching football, fix some finger sandwiches and
something cool to drink and go join them on the couch, or
if your mate spends hours in the garden trying to make things
look perfect, surprise them with a new flowering plant, and
then help to plant it. When taking a walk with your mate,
stop and give them a soft kiss, say, “I love you,” and then
keep walking. Take some chances and do the unexpected.
10.
Lighten Up
Often when couples
have gone through or are going through some bumpy spots in
their relationship, things tend to get serious. It could be
that there is a tremendous amount of tension or perhaps they
are not sure what to say. Regardless of the reason, learn
to lighten up. Do not take every comment, glance, or movement
as a serious problem. If your mate makes a mistake, which
you both will, let it go, or if appropriate, laugh about it.
If you make a mistake, do not be afraid to poke fun at yourself.
This will automatically start the process of tension breaking.
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