KissMeGoodnight
eRomance Series:
Secrets Revealed To Red-Hot,
Lasting
Relationships
( 20 pages )
36.
Leave the Baggage Behind
Every person
on the face of the Earth has some kind of history, or “baggage”,
although at varying levels. Do not walk into a relationship
with your arms loaded with that baggage. The past is the past.
Even though there are things from the past that are hurtful,
and even damaging, learn from those things and come out a
better and stronger person. This allows you to step into a
new relationship with better knowledge of what not to do.
Leave the baggage from the past alone, focus on today, and
look forward to tomorrow.
37.
Do Not Repeat, Do Not Repeat, Do Not
Repeat
Learn from your
mistakes. When something goes wrong and the two of you work
through it, do not repeat the same mistake. Rather than dive
right back into whatever it was you did or said, think before
you act. At first, this will take some discipline but as you
see positive results in the relationship, be encouraged that
it is working.
38.
Go on a Date
Especially for
married couples, but even for some “dating” couples, start
dating. Often people become very comfortable in their relationship
and sitting around on the weekends, watching movies is about
as exciting as it gets. Ask your mate out. For example, actually
call them and ask, “If you do not have any plans for Saturday
night, would you like to go to a concert with me?” It is crucial
to relationships that they keep the fire alive by enjoying
the act of dating. There are many people in long-term, successful
marriages that will tell you they go out on dates every week,
which has been a huge bonus for their relationship.
39.
Memory Box
Start a memory
box to store old movie tickets, brochures from cities visited,
concert ticket stubs, old ski lift passes, cards attached
to flowers received, old love notes or letters, birthday cards
or anniversary cards from your mate, anything that the two
of you did together. Every once in awhile, pull the box out
and look at the items with your mate. Reminisce about each
memento, and keep all the special times in your life close
to your heart!
40.
Keep the Kids Out of It
Whether married
or dating, if there are kids involved, it is crucial that
they are not used as pawns in any situation. For example,
if your mate wants to get intimate and you are not in the
mood, do not say, “I need to help the kids with their homework,”
or if something that needed to be done was not taken care
of because you forgot, do not blame it on the kids by saying,
“I was taking care of the kids and did not have time.” In
the first scenario, be honest with your mate and tell them
that you are very tired and while intimacy is important, you
would prefer to make sure the kids are in bed on time so the
two of you can have some quality time together. This opens
an honest line of communication and does not place ill feelings
on the kids, especially since it is not their problem to begin
with.
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