KissMeGoodnight
eLearning Series:
How To Tell A Great Relationship
From A Totally Unhealthy One
Dating & Relationship
Tips
Enjoy the variety
of dating and relationship building tips that follow. They
are listed in no particular order.
Show Off
– If you have a great body you’re trying to show
off and young physical appearance, yet worry because you
still seem to have difficulty finding dates and establishing
relationships, here are some pointers. Turn off the “ME”
focus. Others tend to see that as boorish and think you
only care about yourself, not others and certainly not
them. Instead, turn the focus on outside interests that
the other person can relate to, even if it has to be the
weather. For help, tune in to an online news source like
CNN or subscribe to a national or other major newspaper
or magazine like Newsweek or head to the public library
for the latest news briefs. Online dating might be a good
outlet for you, to as it generally offers a place to list
all your great physical qualities as well as outside interests
and more, presenting a more rounded dating candidate. Then
those who are VERY interested in great abs, youthful appeal,
etc. will be able to check you out. And those who are interested
in the other interests can focus on those, too.
Sit, Don’t
Take a Stand – Instead of voicing your opinions
over issues that you pretty well know cause heated arguments,
don’t take a stand. Just sit them out. There’s no shame
in passing up an argument. For example, if you both call
yourselves “Christians,” yet one of you firmly has a complete
set of rules and regulations about what a “Christian” really
is, and doesn’t hesitate to voice this, skip over conversations
about religion. If you have to, simply say something along
the lines of, “This gets us too heated, so let’s pass on
if for now and move on to something else.” Agree that it’s
okay to disagree. Because it is!
Traditions
– Keep up with some old traditions from each family.
Alter some; create new ones. The main thing here is to
make positive memories that you can share and relive over
and over, especially during rough spots when you can’t
remember why you are together. Traditions can be like glue
and bind you with a common past.
Sex VS
Love – Sex and love are not the same thing. Learn
the difference and don’t measure love by your hormones.
Negotiator
– Forget “his” and “hers” roles and who “should”
do what when…Learn to negotiate. What works one day may
not work another when timing is off, kids are on the run
and disaster strikes, for instance, when your mother-in-law
drops by unexpectedly.
Love and
Hate – Love your mate. It is OK to strongly dislike
(or “maybe” hate) a behavior, like cracking knuckles or
biting nails. But remember to love the person.
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