KissMeGoodnight eLearning Series:
How To Tell A Great Relationship
From A Totally Unhealthy One

True Love: Truth or Myth?

Let’s take a peak at some of the more common concepts above “love” relationships and see if they are myths or based in reality.

“All you need is love.”

Truth or myth? Since love does seem to be able to overcome anything and everything, at least on television and at the movies, this seems like a reality. However, truth is, making relationships work takes skill and hard work, regardless of the “love” factor. This is a myth here.

Just like in fairy tales, "once true love is found, people live happily ever after."

Truth or myth? Granted couples can look into each other’s eyes and have those warm fuzzy feelings. However, truth is, all couples will have their ups and downs. “Happily ever after” seems to imply a perfect, problem-less relationship when in reality, those don’t exist.

It has to be “love at first sight” in order to work long-term.

Truth or myth? While this can be true for some, it certainly doesn’t have to be for all couples in long-term relationships. Many people grow together over time.

Since practically anyone can learn the nuts and bolts of relationship building, focusing on some basic techniques that can be learned is a must. The main ones, in no particular order, are:

• Read: “Read” people well.
• Rapport: Develop rapport with others well.
• Finesse: Have some finesse; i.e. handle conversations and activities in a cordial manner.
• Conflict Resolution: Resolve negative issues and conflicts without too much friction.
• Support Co-Op: Gain the support and cooperation in working towards a common goal.

Let’s take a little closer look at each and what learning is involved.

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