KissMeGoodnight eLearning Series:
How To Tell A Great Relationship
From A Totally Unhealthy One

Relationship Self-Help Quiz

Self-help to help your relationship improve, here are some exercises to take by yourself and share with your mate. Take them slow and steady, at your own pace. Have fun with them. (There are no grades!)

Instructions: Jot your replies down on paper if you like or in a private “couple’s” journal fur future reference. Add to them, modify them, edit them as you’d like. The key is to have fun, learn more about yourself, your mate and your relationship together, and grow.

Exercise A: List your three best traits. Then list your mate’s top three traits you admire.

Exercise B: List the top three areas in your life that you would like to work on improving. These can be any range of things from improving income to education to giving more, losing more weight, being less shy, etc. Then list the top three areas in your mate’s life that you’d like to see improved.

Fill in the blanks, and then have your mate reply to the same questions. Take turns reading your replies and learning more about each other:

Regarding my appearance, I think I am _____________________
A funny thing that happened to me was _____________________
One place I would love to visit is ____________________________
If money was no object, I would buy _________________________
A person who meant a lot to me while I was growing up is ___________because ______________________________________
A major lesson I learned in life is _____________________________
If I could have any job in the world, it would be __________________
A hero of mine is (can be fictional) ____________________________
If a dream could come true, I’d like ___________________________

One way I’d like to give back would be ________________________

On a personal note, here is where I would like to be:

1 year from now:___________________
3 years from now: __________________
5 years from now: ___________________

As a couple, here is where I’d like us to be:

1 year from now:___________________
3 years from now: __________________
5 years from now: ___________________

One things about you that makes me smile is ____________________

I’ll always remember this about you ___________________________

Exercise: List what you feel is good about your relationship.

Exercise: List what you feel could use work / improvement in your relationship.

Exercise: How could you help improve your relationship? And how do you think your partner could help improve the relationship?

Reply:

1. What is the best memory that comes to mind about your mate?

2. What do you see in the future for your relationship: Location? Jobs? House? Pets? Children? Travel?

3. What fun things would you like to try and do with your mate more (Ballroom dancing? Gourmet cooking? Snow skiing? Other?) When will you schedule one of these new things?

In summary, since the latest reports show that just about anyone and everyone can learn the important social skills needed for relationship building, use what you can of this guide and its resources mentioned to focus on your own Healthy Relationships. Be alert to possible problem areas, and take action to improve your life.

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