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Article Series: Infidelity & Cheating
Is My Partner Cheating On Me?
The
Anonymous Tip: Your Spouse is Having an Affair
You just got an anonymous email stating that
your spouse is having an affair. Your blood is boiling and
your hands are shaking. But how can you tell if this tip means
you've got a cheating spouse, vs. if someone is just out to
cause trouble for you and your partner?
First
of all, did your new "friend" deliver any
kind of verifiable information? If they gave you information
you can check for a fact - such as where your partner "really" is
when he or she says they are staying late at work on Thursdays
- then this is easy enough to check. If that fact checks out,
then
you should definitely ask what else they know!
Keep
in mind, however, that even though it's a bad sign when your
significant other is lying, it doesn't necessarily mean
that they're cheating. If your husband goes to the sports bar
to hang out with friends for an hour after work, it may be
that he just didn't want to own up to not coming straight home,
for example.
Still,
it's suspicious activity. See if your anonymous informant
has any more help. And start learning how other people have
caught cheating partners, so that you can have a solid method
to go on if you need it.
If
your informant didn't give you any verifiable information,
write back and ask for some. In fact, you should write back
and ask for any information at all.
This isn't just because it may give you an idea of what your
spouse is up to. It's also a way to make sure that your informant
knows what they are talking about, and isn't just out to cause
you and your partner pain over a real or imagined offense.
The information your anonymous informant gives can be useful
here, even if it's not about where your spouse is when they
say they are somewhere else. If your informant knows details
about your spouse's workplace or extra-curricular activities,
that is at least one sign that they may be on the level.
Still, if they can't tell you anything more
useful than "I
know where your spouse works and I know that he or she is cheating," you're
not going to be able to rely on them for evidence.
Try and get as much information as you can. You may be able
to come up with some questions to ask your spouse that get
an alarmed response, or else a ho-hum response. Usually, you
can measure the accuracy of your questions by how emotional
your partner becomes with their response!
Of course no rule works 100% of the time. That's why, if you
really want to catch a cheating spouse, you need a workable
system and at least a couple of tools to do the job.
Things
like reverse phone lookups and specially designed software,
when combined with a methodical approach, can help you catch
a cheating partner. You'll want to use proven tools and methods
if your anonymous tip-off proves fruitful. After all, it's
highly unlikely you'll be able to catch a cheating spouse--and
prove wrongdoing to a court - solely from an anonymous tip.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2010
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