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Is My Partner Cheating On Me?
Someone
Told Me My Spouse Is Cheating – Is It True Or Not?
"Someone
told me my spouse is cheating - are they for real?" It's
hard to tell. It's the kind of information that's hard to
dismiss out of hand. Even if you have no reason
to believe that your partner has been unfaithful, it's the
kind of thing that can keep you up all night, for many nights
to come.
Yet
how reliable is this information? It's possible that you've
never suspected your spouse of infidelity, yet they are running
around behind your back. But if you wrongly suspect your partner
of having an affair, these kinds of statements from a third
party can be the doom of what might otherwise be a successful
relationship.
Ultimately, you need to weigh out what you are told. There
are several things to consider when you receive a tip that
your spouse might be cheating. They vary somewhat, depending
on who has given you the tip.
1. When someone of your own gender has given you a tip-off.
While someone of your own gender may seem like the most reliable
source, this isn't always the case.
This
is especially true in the case of women. Say what you want
about sexist statements - in my experience, it's just flat-out
true. All too often I have seen one woman convince another
that that woman's husband was cheating, just so she could run
off with the frustrated and bewildered man when the relationship
fell apart.
This
is less often the case when one man tells another - although
it does still happen. If the teller says that a man's wife
or girlfriend has been sleeping around a lot, he may be doing
so because of a guilty conscience as well…
How can you tell if the person is lying or not?
While there's no easy way to tell, there are a few questions
you can ask yourself to gain perspective. Have you seen this
person making eyes at your mate before? Have they tried to
monopolize your spouse's time? Are they perhaps an ex of your
mate? This last factor is usually a good sign you should be
suspicious.
If
the person seems to be in a stable relationship, then they
could be more reliable - just remember that appearances are
often deceptive. If the person is going through a divorce or
just recently got out of a relationship, then their tip-off
is possibly more suspect. Even if they don't have ulterior
motives, their experiences might have left them seeing infidelity
everywhere!
2. A member of the opposite sex has something to say.
The
same basic rules apply to an opposite-sex informant as they
do with a same-sex one, with one exception - substitute
concerns for your spouse, to concerns about you!
Has the informant shown more than just a friendly interest
in you before? Are they going through some tough times of their
own? Is this person perhaps an ex of yours?
If it's an ex of yours, only you know if your ex is being
helpful and concerned, petty and vengeful, or perhaps just
wants you back. If it's someone else…have they just ended a
relationship of their own? Do they have a reputation of being
a bit…frisky? Have they perhaps always been a little flirtatious
with you?
These
are all warning signs - yet it's still hard to dismiss a
warning about a potentially cheating spouse out of hand.
You're not the only person who's ever wondered if your partner
is having an affair or otherwise running around on you.
Fortunately (fortunately for you, anyway), others have gone
through the same experiences. There are methods designed by
private eyes specializing in just this kind of case, as well
as tools like reverse phone lookups and software you can install,
that will help you catch a cheating spouse. If you want proof,
it's best to go with these tools and not just rely on another
person's word-of-mouth.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2010
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