infidelity signs
kissmegoodnight.com
extramarital affairs
Discover The Secrets To Understanding Men
What Men Want From Women.
How to captivate a man, have him fall in love with you,
give you the world
and never want to leave.
[ Be That Woman Men Absolutely Adore ]



 

KissMeGoodnight Article Series: Infidelity & Cheating
Is My Partner Cheating On Me?

   
   

Infidelity Discovered? 10 Ways to Calm Your Powerful Feelings
by Dr. Robert Huizenga

       

When you find out about the affair, the first few hours, days and weeks can be emotionally wrenching to say the least. Or, if someone you deeply care about begins "pulling away" you may also experience intense feelings. Read through this list and pick out a couple things you can do to help yourself during these times.

1. Walk. Run, if you are fit enough to run. Work out. Get the blood flowing. Physical exercise drains off the adrenaline and physically you feel better. You also think better of yourself because you are caring for you.

2. Talk. If you typically handle problems by talking them out, find someone who will listen as you pour out your heart. Give them explicit instructions: "I need to talk, vent, cry, rage, and question. Just look me in the eye, nod your head and listen."

3. Write. Get a kitchen timer. Set it for 5 minutes. Spend that time writing...anything, everything that comes to your mind. Don't censor. When the bell goes off say to yourself, "OK, there it is. Now I need to get on to other things. I will come back later and write more." Put the writing in a safe place or destroy it.

4. Find a safe place and spend some time there. Do you have a favorite lake, wooded area, park, room, chair where you feel safe and can "get away." Intentionally spend some time there.

5. Use good "self talk." Tell yourself, "You are ok. You will be ok. This too shall pass. What you are feeling is normal and will not destroy you." Develop that "observing part" that can speak to your turmoil.

6. Pray. Meditate. Use your spiritual resources, if you have them. If you don't have them, it can be a good time to develop them. Spirituality often affirms your worth and enables you to see the larger picture.

7. Be aware. Notice what you are thinking, how you are feeling and what you are doing. Pay close attention to these chunks of your life. Just noticing often creates distance from the emotional pain.

8. Encourage the rhythm of your feelings. Your feelings will come and go, often as in waves. There will be lulls and sometimes they crash. Notice the intensity and frequency of the waves.

9. Get professional help. Supportive therapy might be helpful. Personal and professional coaching, often via telephone, is a helpful phenomenon that is increasingly popular as a way to find support and direction for specific problems.

10. Gather resources. Start reading, exploring the internet and talking to people about your situation. Believe me, you are not alone. Many people have walked your path (well, not exactly your path, but close) and are there to offer their understanding and point out the bends and turns of your road.

Learn how NOT to blow it. Clear your mind! Get Relief!
Sign up now for Dr. Huizenga's Free E-course.

# # # # #

KissMeGoodnight.com : 2008

> Home > Infidelity & Affairs: Main Page

   

Related Channels:

Guys, Learn How To Make Women DROOL Over Your Appearance. Skyrocket Your Sex Appeal Overnight. This Program Focuses On Areas Such As Fashion, Hairstyle, Hygiene, Grooming, Skin Care, Cosmetic Dentistry, Weight Loss, and Muscle Building.

300 Romantic, Creative & Inexpensive
Date Ideas
For Singles Or Married Couples.
Stop Starving For New Ways To Spend Time Together. It's A Goldmine Of Ideas & A Great Guide. Definitely Recommended.

How To Improve Your Foreplay, Lovemaking, Explosiveness & Passion.
In 5 Minutes You Can Have Any Of
These 100 Exciting Sex Games
Firing Up Your Relationship.

How To Deal With A Cheating Spouse
Learn How To Save Your Marriage
and Your Sanity Before It's Too Late.

How To Fix Your Sexless Marriage
Learn 5 Facts You Must Understand
If You Are Ever Going To Enjoy
The Kind of Intimacy You Deserve.

How To Save Your Marriage Today
Put An End To The Stress & Anxiety Of
Not Knowing What To Do To Save Your Troubled Marriage. Learn The 6 Most
Common Reasons for Divorce &
How To Stop Them Happening to You.

 

What Men Want From Women
Learn Top Relationship Expert's Proven Methods That Shows Any Woman
How To Be Irresistible To Men.

How To Make Any Man Call You
The Only Guide That Tells You All Possible Reasons Why Men Stop Calling. It Is a True Blueprint Into a Man’s Mind. Read It.

How To Really Talk Dirty In Bed
Add Fire & Passion To Your Relationship.
In The Next 5 Minutes You Could Be
Driving Your Man Wild With Desire.
Please Ladies, Read This.

How Do I Get Him Back?
The World's Most Romantic Man Reveals
How To Help You Bring Back The
Love of Your Life - In 3 Simple Steps.

How To Find The Man Of Your Dreams
Stop Waiting For Love To Find You.
You Can Attract the Man of Your Dreams.
This Is A Proven Step-by-Step Plan For
Finding The Love of Your Life.

50 Secrets To A Blissful Relationship
Learn How To Reconnect With Your Lover
No Matter How Stubborn or Distant They Are
& No Matter How Hopeless Or Difficult
Your Situation Seems.

     
 
Adult Toys: Top Questions Women Have About Sex Toys Jan 8
Anti-Aging: Top 10 Anti-Aging Secrets Feb 2
Dating Tips: "Mentally Managing" Wife's Celibacy Mar 11
Dating Tips: What Can I Do To Help Make Her Feelings For Me Stronger? Mar 11
Dating Tips: Is My Girlfriend a Ho or Sexually Healthy? Mar 11
Dating Tips: How To Be A Man Jan 21
Infidelity: Emotionally & Financially Ready to Confront Your Cheating Spouse? Feb 2
Infidelity: Someone Told Me My Spouse Is Cheating – Is It True Or Not? Feb 2
Infidelity: 3 Ways To Get In Trouble When Spying On Your Cheating Spouse Feb 2
Infidelity: Where Can I Turn To For Support If My Spouse Is Cheating On Me? Feb 2
Men's Dating Tips: Should I Date a Coworker? Feb 18
Men's Dating Tips: How To Meet A Great Girl At Social Gatherings Feb 18
Men's Dating Tips: How To Prepare For A Girlfriend Feb 18
Relationship Advice: How Do I Inject More Passion Into My Relationship? Mar 4
Relationship Advice: 3 Tips To a More Perfect Relationship Mar 4
Relationship Advice: How To See What Your Partner Keeps Hidden From You Mar 4
Save My Marriage: Mistakes That Married Men Make Jun 10
Save My Marriage: Mistakes That Married Women Make Jun 10
Yeast Infection: How to Get Rid Of Your Yeast Infection Jan 9
 

Like This Article?
Want More?

Click Here To
Connect To
This Channel's
Index Page.

Fast, Fun & Free.
Get Instant Results!

Is Your Relationship
Hot and Heavy
OR
Sliding Down The
Scrap Heap?

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

Are You Ready To
Tie The Knot
OR
Climb Out The
Nearest Window?

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

Are You A Sultry
Sensual Soul
OR
A Frigid Block
Of Ice?

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

Are You A Revved Up
Sexual Daredevil
OR
A Lifeless Bedroom
Afterthought?

(MATURE AUDIENCES ONLY)

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

Are You
Relaxed As Rain
OR
Crippled With
Anxiety?

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

Spectacular
Self Esteem
OR
Self Love
In The Toilet?

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

Are You
Self Empowered
OR
Complete Coward?

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

[ View All Quizzes ]
    

'Hot 10' Channels
For The Past 7 Days:

Relationship Advice
(8,852 views)
Ask Dr. Neder (Dating)
(8,402 views)
Beauty Secrets
(4,058 views)
Sexual Health
(3,571 views)

Be More Romantic
(3,007 views)
Lingerie
(2,580 views)
Wedding Tips
(1,714 views)

101 Secrets &
Relationship Tips

(1,515 views)

Nice Guy Dating
(1,456 views)

Bad Breath
(1,205 views)

Top How-To's
For The Past 7 Days:

Foreplay: How To
Stimulate a Woman

(1,218 views)

How To Make Small
Eyes Lok Bigger

(1,114 views)

Gift Ideas For
Less Than $10

(1,073 views)

Difference Between
Love & Lust

(979 views)

Romantic Nicknames
(663 views)

Men's Sexual
Health: Blue Balls

(581 views)

Why Women Cheat
in a Relationship

(522 views)

Dating An
Older Man

(495 views)

What's The
Difference
Between Perfume
& Cologne

(476 views)

Lingerie For
a Pregnant Mom

(452 views)

Romantic
Kissing Tips

(415 views)

Dating a
Younger Man

(408 views)

10 Creative
Marriage Proposals

(371 views)

Long Distance
Relationship
Romantic Ideas

(360 views)

Learn To Read
Romantic
Body Language

(351 views)

Beards, Goatees
and Moustaches:
Grooming Tips

(311 views)

Wearing a G-String:
Pleasure or
Pain in the Butt?

(294 views)

18 Ways To Make
Romantic Sparks Fly

(279 views)

Differences Between
Men and Women
in Relationships

(273 views)

Top 8 Ways To
Get Over the Person
Who Broke Your Heart

(254 views)

[ more... ]

    
Home | Self Improvement | Small / Home Business | Home Improvement | Advertising | Technology | US Elections & Politics
Relationships / Dating | Autos | Gardening | Pets / Animals | Shopping / Hobbies | Sports | Travel | Merchant Accounts
Free Stuff & Freebies | Holidays | Directory / All Channels | RSS / XML Feed | Privacy Policy | Contact | Site Map

SolveYourProblem.com Downloadable "How-To" Guides   |   Fast, Fun & Free Self Discovery Quizzes

AddThis Social Bookmark Button      AddThis Feed Button

© Launch 3, LLC All Rights Reserved