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Top 4 Signs of a Liar

The bottom line is that people don't always tell the truth. While many folks tell little white lies in order to avoid hurting people's feelings, there is the hard core liar who knows he or she has done something wrong and is trying to cover up. Fortunately, there are a few indicators that will help you know when someone is lying to you. Here are four common signs of liars that will put you on the road to discovering the truth.

The classic indication that someone is lying is an inability to look you in the eye when telling the whopper. Some liars try to compensate for this by focusing on a point on the face that is near the eyes, such as the eyebrows or the nose. Unless you are watching closely, you may even think the liar is looking you square in the eye. Also be on the lookout for the flip-flop; this is a strategy in which the liar's eyes dart away and back to your eyes while offering up the untruth.

Second in the common signs of liars is an extreme change in body language. This shift may take the form of folding the arms and placing the legs close together, almost into a defensive posture. At the other end of the spectrum, the liar may have the arms wide open and lean into your personal space, almost as if attempting to emphasize the truthful nature of the lie. People who are telling the truth tend to change posture very little while speaking. Watch for sudden and extreme changes and be very wary of what you are being told when they happen.

Changes in tone and inflection can also indicate that what you are hearing is not the truth. Some people unconsciously raise the tone of their voice when telling lie. At the same time, they tend to depart from their normal range of inflection. For example, if the individual normally enunciates clearly but begins to slur words slightly, they may be telling a lie. By the same token, if the individual normally speaks rapidly and suddenly slows the pace, it may because they are spouting words they know are not true.

The last of the four main signs has to do with multiple repetitions of the lie. It is almost as if the liar has to repeat the lie several times in order to convince himself that the lie is actually the truth. When a liar feels the need to attest to the truthfulness of a statement several times in a space of just a few minutes, something is definitely wrong. Look at the remarks very closely before accepting them as truth.

Keep in mind that there is usually more than one indicator present at any given time. Expect to see two or more signs of liars to be present when an individual is intentionally spouting an untruth. Learning these basic signs will help you to be on your guard and not be sucked in when someone starts spinning a yarn of some type.

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