KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
How
To Ask For Her Phone Number
You’ve met a woman that you like, and it seems
like she likes you, too. How are you going to keep in touch
until it’s time to plan a date? The obvious way would be to
ask for her phone number and/or email address so you can get
in touch with her, but that may not be your best choice in
every circumstance.
Women
aren’t always comfortable giving out that kind of information
until they know a person pretty well. In this day and age,
most everyone is more reluctant to give out personal information
- except in situations where they feel very comfortable.
A first meeting probably isn’t comfortable enough for some
women. There are a few ways you can get around this, and while
they might take more effort, if you show her that you’re willing
to take her natural cautiousness into consideration, she will
appreciate you for it and probably think highly of you because
of it.
Something that you can do to really instill trust is to give
her your phone number and/or email address instead of asking
her to give you hers. This lets her know that you seriously
want to stay in touch, and it gives her a bit more control
over the situation.
It might be hard as a man to give up control, but you have
to be willing to play the game sometimes. If she’s into you,
she will call or email. If you don’t hear from her, it’s disappointing,
but you’ll get over it.
Another possibility is to tell her that you’ve really had
a great time talking to her and you’d like to keep in touch.
You can then say something like, “Let’s exchange phone numbers
(or email addresses) so we can keep in touch and maybe get
together sometime.”
Then you can write your information down and give it to her
in hopes that she gives you hers, too. If she does, you’re
all set. If she doesn’t, just wait for her to contact you,
but don’t pressure her to give you her information.
The last thing you ever want to do is to appear too aggressive
or demanding when you’re trying to get a date. Nor do you want
to appear desperate, so if she doesn’t pony up – no asking
why or trying to change her mind.
She might just be very cautious - and in this case - you can
always give her a way to get a hold of you by telling her how
much you enjoyed your conversation and that you’d like to talk
again. If you do this while handing her your business card
or your email address on a slip of paper, you can look forward
to hearing from her.
People are more cautious in general today, and women tend
to be much more cautious about giving out their digits than
in the past. You have to accept that for what it is and not
take it personally. Click here to learn what goes on inside a woman's head. It's a man's guide to the female mind. It's my KissMeGoodnight recommendation.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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