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Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
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Invite
Your Date To An Event You Are Already Going To
Sometimes formally asking for a date seems
sort of weird, even though you want to go out with her. It
just seems like you’re back in school to have to walk up to
a woman you like and say, “Would you like to go on a date with
me?”
It’s pretty stiff and seems old fashioned. A
more comfortable approach can be to invite her to join
you for an activity that
you already have planned for yourself (even if you haven’t
really planned it for yourself). Here’s how:
The first step is to have an idea of what interests you and
she have in common. If you have things in common that you enjoy,
for example hiking, the next time you plan a hiking daytrip,
you can invite her along.
Make the invitation very casual by first talking about the
outing and making it sound exciting. Then lead into a spiel
where she can “join you if she wants” - she will feel a lot
more comfortable and less pressured that it’s a date.
This tactic works well because you’re implying that you know
she’s going to enjoy doing whatever it is with you. Frame the
invitation so that you sound enthusiastic and like you know
you’re both going to have fun and that it will be a great way
for you to pass some time together.
Maybe you know her from a book club. You could let her know
when an author is going to be in town for a reading and you
could suggest you go together. Put it like this, “I just heard
that Stephen King is going to be doing a reading at Barnes
and Noble! I got tickets, so why don’t you come along?” How
can she resist an invitation like that?
The premise of asking her to something you’re already going
to can apply to just about anything. If you’re going to a party
at the opening of a new club or if you’re going to the tattoo
convention and you know you’re both into tattoos, just tell
her that it’s coming up, looks like there will be a lot of
interesting people and things to see and invite her to come,
too.
When you ask a girl out for this kind of date, you’re really
doing yourself a favor because she won’t feel the pressure
of a sometimes awkward dinner and movie type of date. She knows
you are going to be having a good time and that the two of
you will be able to enjoy something that you have in common.
This is a great way to get to know each other better and if
it goes well, you can always extend the “date” by going for
a bite to eat afterwards. If you don’t get out much and don’t
have a lot of things lined up for yourself to invite her to,
you’ll need to add some activities to your list.
Don’t be lazy – dating and getting dates isn’t for lazy people
and you need to put forth effort. Make sure your list has activities
you actually like, because you need to be authentic from the
beginning. When you approach dating this way, it becomes easier
and much less pressure-filled for you both.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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