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I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
What
Do I Bring on a First Date?
If a first date brings to mind a picture of
you at her doorstep with a dozen roses and a box of candy,
you may need a new picture. The question of what to “bring”
to a first date should never be answered with a box of candy
and a dozen roses.
That’s too much, too soon. However, you can bring a small
token gift if you want to, and there are other, non-gift things
that you should always bring to a date. Let’s look at them.
- Forget
being lavish on the first date, or the second or the third. If you want to show up with a gift, then bring something
small, subtle and nice. Ideas for good first date gifts
are:
one beautiful flower (go to the florist and pick one out
– and have them wrap it in nice paper). Other nice small
gifts
could be a bottle of wine, if she’s a wine drinker, or
some specialty dog or cat treats if she has pets. You can
be creative
but just don’t go overboard. It’s a first date, and you
two don’t know each other that well yet.
- Unless
you’re sure she’ll want to pay her share of everything,
make sure you’ve
got enough money to cover any expenses.
As your dating relationship continues, she’ll (hopefully)
offer
to split costs.
- You
don’t have to be a cover model for GQ. You do have to make
your best effort at wearing something
that’s
appropriate
for the date, and being very clean and well groomed.
You don’t necessarily have to go out and buy new clothes,
but just make
sure you look well put together. Look like yourself,
but your best self.
- If
you feel like wearing some cologne, just a tiny bit is
enough. Don’t take a bath in your cologne.
Some
people are
sensitive to perfumes and colognes and you don’t
want to send her into a sneezing, eye-watering fit.
- A
sincere interest in getting to know her better. You’re
going to
win lots of points by making sure
you don’t
do all the talking and that you’re asking her about
herself, her interests
and her goals, and then listening intently and
learning about her.
- Bring
your best manners. Open doors for her and treat her and
everyone you run into such as
the
valet, the
waiter, the
person at the ticket booth or other drivers with
respect.
There are a few things that you should definitely not bring
to a first date. Among these are expectations of sex, a negative
attitude, stories about your exes, a lack of manners, or the
habit of answering your cell phone and chatting with your friends
when you’re supposed to be paying attention to her.
Making a good first date impression involves balancing your
desire to impress with common sense. She’ll find that your
efforts to look great and show her respect will far outweigh
the value of any huge bouquet that’s unnecessary at this point
anyway. Save the roses for your first anniversary.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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