KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
How
Do I Know If I Have Chemistry With a Woman?
You’ve met someone you really like. You have
common interests and you’re physically attracted to her. She’s
nice, smart, has a decent job and seems to have herself together.
What more could you ask?
Or rather, what more should you ask? You should ask yourself
if you have chemistry with this woman. Why? Because without
chemistry, you’ll end up wanting her for a friend, not a life
partner.
What is chemistry anyway? It’s not an overused phrase, that’s
for sure – it’s an important one! Chemistry is as important
to a relationship as respect or like-mindedness is when it
comes to values.
Chemistry
is that feeling of rightness, comfort, ease and openness
that everyone wants to have in a relationship. It’s
also that spark that you feel ignite each time you’re near
each other. Let’s look at ways to tell if you have chemistry:
- Do
you have a spark? That spark is the tingly, butterfly feeling
you get when you see her or she’s nearby. Yes, it’s
sort of the same as the feeling you get when you have a crush
on someone. But it’s more substantial than that. The spark
isn’t only physical - it’s a mental thing, too. She piques
your interest on more than one level.
- Are
you comfortable when you’re around her? Do you feel like
you can be yourself around her to some degree? Do you
feel that she’s comfortable, too? Do you feel comfortable in
public with each other? How about in private?
- How
do you feel about her when she’s not around? Do you smile
when you think of her and wish she were with you? Do
you look forward to spending time with her?
- Are
you in sync with one another? It’s not like having a routine.
Chemistry means you’re both up for whatever comes
along. You’re not dreading an argument because you feel
she’ll want to do one thing and you’ll want to do another.
- Can
you picture having a long-term relationship with this person? Chemistry will get you through the years.
Depending on how you answer the above questions, you may or
may not have good chemistry with this woman. If you’re unsure,
check out the “no chemistry warning signs” below. They’ll help
you determine if there is or isn’t chemistry between the two
of you.
No Chemistry Warning Signs:
- When
you’re together, you’re thinking of everything and everyone
but her.
- She
annoys you – a lot. Everyone is annoying once in awhile,
but a lot is too much.
- You
don’t miss her when she’s not around. No, you aren’t going
to pine after her every minute
you’re apart, but
you should probably have a fond thought of her once
in awhile.
- You
don’t feel like you can be yourself around her. You feel
stiff and uncomfortable, like you can’t wait
to say goodnight
so you can relax and be you.
- You
don’t approve of or understand in the least why she does
what she does.
- The
relationship seems like a lot of work and very little pleasant
interaction.
- You’re
not sure you can imagine spending your life with her.
Your relationship isn’t always going to be sunshine and smiles.
People get on each other’s nerves and do things that the other
person thinks are idiotic. At the beginning of a relationship,
you might not be ready to propose marriage, but if you have
some chemistry, you should at least be able to imagine it without
a feeling of dread.
If your current dates and you don’t have chemistry, don’t
worry. The beautiful thing about this world is that it’s filled
with great women who you will potentially have great chemistry
with – you just need to find them! Click here to learn what goes on inside a woman's head. It's a man's guide to the female mind. It's my KissMeGoodnight recommendation.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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