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Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
4
Nice Guy Dating Disasters
You’re on a dinner date. Things are going
well and you’ve noticed a smoking hot woman walking into the
restaurant. At this moment, your best bet is to look straight
at your date and ask her a question about herself.
Do
not, for any reason, look at the hot woman and don’t say
a word about how beautiful she is or how great she looks in
her outfit! If you do that, you’re probably never going see
your date again.
This is just one example of the kind of dating disasters that
get nice guys in trouble and how you can avoid them. Even the
nicest guys sometimes seem to forget the basic rules that we’ll
talk about here and manage to insult and anger perfectly good
dates by accident.
Disaster
1
The
other attractive woman. Your date is cute, smart, funny and
fun to be with. She’s great. If you’re out
with her and you spot a woman who is incredibly beautiful
and sexy, you need to keep your eyes off of her and on your
date. This
is hard to do, because men are visually stimulated and want
to look at beautiful women. Most women take this as an
insult, especially before they know you well. If your eyes
are wandering, she’s going to wonder if you will.
If
you spend too much time eyeing other pretty women, or worse
yet,
mentioning other pretty women that you spy while
on a
date, you might as well plan on never getting another date
with the same woman again.
Disaster
2
Something
compels you to talk about your ex-girlfriends or wives. This
has
the potential for being
disastrous because
they’re usually exes for a reason. Your date probably
doesn’t care to know how much you hate your ex (or for
that matter,
how much you love the one that got away), or about
all the rotten things she did to you.
Your
date isn’t your ex, and sharing those bad times is going
to put a damper
on the fun you could be having.
Share
your
horror stories with your therapist. Exes probably
needn’t be mentioned at all unless you have children with
an
ex and your
dating relationship is getting to the point where
you may want her to meet your kids. Until then, say as
little as
possible
on the subject, and be kind and respectful when the
subject of past loves comes up.
Disaster
3
You
decide to offer your thoughts on religion, abortion, politics,
gun
control, foreign
relations, feminism,
homosexuality or any other hot button topic that
could
be sensitive.
A
first date (or any date that’s early in the relationship)
is not the time to talk about
things
that people
feel very sensitive about. You could find that
the date
ends early
if you push the wrong buttons. These subjects
ultimately become
important in a relationship, but early on,
they need to be treated very delicately.
Disaster
4
You
decide a conversation about sex is in order on the first
date. If you’re
looking to find
Mrs.
Right for
a long-term relationship, leave sex out
of the conversation
for awhile. She needs to get to know you,
and bringing up sex will make her think that’s
all you’re interested
in -
even
if it’s not true. If that’s the case, you’re
headed for trouble. If you want to date successfully, you need to be aware of
the potential for disaster. Awareness will hopefully lead to
avoidance and you’ll be well on your way to a second, third,
and fourth get-together. Click here to learn what goes on inside a woman's head. It's a man's guide to the female mind. It's my KissMeGoodnight recommendation.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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