KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
Guys,
Are Your Expectations Way Too High?
Dating is not the place for people who have
unrealistic expectations. It’s not the place to forget that
the people we’re dating are human, meaning that they’re going
to have foibles, bad hair days, funny looking feet, or an imperfect
career.
There are nice guys out there that are far too ready to complain
that they’re being rebuffed left and right for dates when perfectly
great women are trying to get their attention. For your own
sake, don’t be one of those men.
We all fantasize about the perfect date. Perfect looks, perfect
body, perfect job, lots of money, perfect sense of humor, perfect
personality - always perfect in every way. Stop living in a
fantasy world.
As
the old saying goes, “No matter how good looking she is,
some man, somewhere, is tired of listening to her complain.” That’s not saying that every woman complains. That’s saying
that no woman (or man) is the perfect ten in every way.
So if you’re thinking that you’re failing at dating because
your idea of the perfect woman hasn’t fallen into your lap,
or the most gorgeous woman at the office has turned you down
for a date, you’re not paying attention.
Look around you. Most people aren’t tens – male or female.
You might find someone with a ten mind and a six body. Or a
ten body and a three personality. Or everything sevens and
eights (which isn’t too bad, my friend).
You need to open yourself up so that you aren’t shutting out
some really great dating prospects. Besides, are you a ten
in every way? In the real world, we all have our shortcomings,
so you may need to be okay with some shortcomings in your dates.
To do this, find
out what your deal-breakers are. Everyone
has them, and even if you’re a super-nice person, there are
going to be things that you just can’t stand. Maybe you can’t
stand women who are stick-thin.
Would you be fine with someone who was slightly overweight?
Or does she have to have a perfect body? If she absolutely
must have a perfect body, are you willing to accept less than
a ten in another area?
Maybe you love long hair, but hers is short and spunky – but
she’s got that perfect body and a sense of humor that entertains
you all the time. Can you deal with that? You’re going to have
to compromise with yourself somewhere.
What if you absolutely must have a date who’s extremely intelligent?
Are you ruling out everyone who doesn’t have two PhDs? You
might want to rethink that. You get the idea here, right?
You have to look at the whole package and not reject someone
for one or two perceived flaws. If you do reject women who
are great, but not perfect, you might be rejecting someone
who could be the love of your life and who may end up being
perfect in your eyes once you get to know her.
Unless you’re completely perfect yourself, don’t shoot yourself
in the foot by rejecting imperfect women as possible dates.
If she’s got one of your deal-breakers going, that’s one thing,
but if you look at the whole package and see someone who’s
averaging a decent score, then give her a shot. Don’t forget,
she’s judging you the same way, and giving you a shot, too. Click here to learn what goes on inside a woman's head. It's a man's guide to the female mind. It's my KissMeGoodnight recommendation.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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