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A New Girl? Your First Date Blueprint.
You’ve found a great girl, asked her out and
she’s accepted your invitation. Congratulations! But wait –
now you’re nervous! How are you going to impress her so that
you can survive the first date and stay off the no-callback
list?
First, relax a little. She’s
nervous, too. First dates are
always the most nerve-wracking for everyone. You’ll get through
it. But let’s make sure you get through it unscathed. This
date is like a blank canvas, and you can paint it any way you
want it, so get those creative juices flowing and start thinking
about how you want to make it special enough for her to put
you at the top of her list.
Chances are you may have already asked her to a specific event
or outing, like a visit to the art museum in your city or a
baseball game or a concert. You have a starting place if this
is the approach you took, but if you haven’t then you need
to make a decision about what you’ll be doing on this first
date of yours.
Be sure to pick an activity that you will both enjoy. Let’s
look at the elements of a great first date:
- If
you feel comfortable, you can bring her a small gift
(a single rose or a tiny package of specially wrapped chocolates
from the local specialty candy store). You don’t have to
bring
a gift.
- Whether
you’re picking her up or meeting her somewhere, be
on time. This can’t be stressed enough.
- Greet
her with a smile and a light hug - no kissing, no bear
hugs. If she rejects
the hug, don’t worry. She
might be a little
reserved. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you.
- Start
a conversation. You can plan what you’re going to say
before you meet. It can be related to what you’re
going to
be doing on your date or something interesting that
happened to you during the day. Make sure you give
her a sincere
compliment like “It’s really nice to see you, I’ve
been looking forward
to this all day.” This type of compliment is very
innocuous and there’s no risk in making her feel uncomfortable,
like if you were to say, “Wow, your body looks awesome
in that sweater!”
- If
you’re driving somewhere, open the car door for her. Chivalry
is not dead. Likewise, open
doors
at
the restaurant, theater,
etc. If she’s an uber-feminist and doesn’t want
you to do these things, she’ll let you know. Most women
appreciate
these small
acts.
- Hopefully,
you’ve chosen an activity that will give you time to chat,
but also allow for some
time to not
feel the need
to talk. It’s possible that if you hit it off
well enough and have enough in common, neither of you
will struggle
with small
talk anyway. Don’t worry about lulls in conversation.
They will fill themselves in if you relax and
are observant of what’s
going on around you. Try to keep conversations
mostly positive.
- When
your date is over, say goodnight with a hug or light kiss
on the cheek. If you think
things
went
really
well, you
can try for a kiss on the lips, but no tongue
or slobbering. Keep your hormones in check!
- Hopefully
you enjoyed your date, and if you did, tell her so. If
you didn’t, you can still
tell
her you had
fun, but
don’t promise to call unless you intend to!
Now comes the question of how
soon should you call her. If
you think things went really well, you can call her in a couple
of days and briefly tell her that you enjoyed the first date
and ask if she’d like to go out again in a week or two.
Don’t make it too soon – you’ll seem desperate. If you get
nervous about phone calls, practice first – just like in the
movies. Before you dial, take some deep breaths. Hopefully
she feels the same, and you’re on your way to another great
date with a great woman.
If the date isn’t as great as you’d hoped, don’t worry. You
just had a good practice experience and you can learn from
it. What went right, and what went wrong? Remember, you might
not be fully to blame if the date didn’t go well. Try to see
where you can do better in the future and move on. Click here to learn what goes on inside a woman's head. It's a man's guide to the female mind. It's my KissMeGoodnight recommendation.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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