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How
To Make Good First Date Conversation
You’re on your first date and even though
you’ve looked forward to this, and planned for it, you’re worried
about making conversation and what to do when you run into
one of those inevitable lulls.
Maybe you’re not worried at all because you consider yourself
to be an expert conversationalist – a real talker. Either way,
you need some pointers, just to make sure you keep the conversation
going, keep it interesting and make it fun for both of you.
When you’re going on a date, the assumption is that you both
feel that you have enough in common to have a good time together.
And it’s not only your responsibility to keep a lively conversation
going – it’s hers, too.
But for your part, take note of the following good conversation
advice.
- Prepare
yourself – You don’t have to be an expert on world
news and the latest celebrity gossip, but you should read
the
news and scan the Internet for current events and at
least be conversant in some areas.
- Ask
her about herself, her hobbies, her family, her dogs,
her college alma mater, her job, and her favorite vacation
spots. Ask questions that can’t be answered with a
yes or no, but require an answer that will hopefully lead
to
more conversation.
An example would be, “You mentioned that you went to
Toronto last month, what made you choose to spend time
in Toronto?”
- Put
your cell phone on vibrate, or turn it off completely.
If you’re expecting a really important
call from your
boss about the latest $40 million contract you’re trying
to get,
take the call and BE BRIEF.
If your buddy calls you just to talk, or your mom
calls to tell you that your sister is coming over
for Thanksgiving
and
you should be there, too – those calls can wait.
It’s really rude to hold a phone conversation that’s
nothing
less than
extremely important while you’re on a date.
- Don’t
monopolize the conversation. If you’re busy telling her
your life’s history, she probably won’t
be able to get
a word in edgewise and might begin to suspect that
you’re self-absorbed. You won’t get a second date
that way.
- Stay
away from touchy subjects such as religion, sex, politics,
capital punishment, assisted suicide,
etc. These topics can
wait until you know each other better and you
both have a better feel for each other’s sensitivities.
- Be
polite. Try to keep from throwing crude references and
expletives into your conversation.
You’re supposed
to be making
a good impression.
- Use
your sense of humor. If you can make her laugh, you’re
going to win points because
everyone
loves
to laugh. Just don’t
do it at someone else’s expense.
Once you’ve had a couple of dates, the conversation will flow
easily, but often, the first date is a process of trying to
figure out what you have in common, if you can feel comfortable
with each other and what both of your conversational styles
are.
Just relax and remember that it’s not all up to you to keep
the conversation going. Enjoy learning about this new person,
and have fun telling her interesting things about yourself,
too. Before you know it, the words will be flowing effortlessly. Click here to learn what goes on inside a woman's head. It's a man's guide to the female mind. It's my KissMeGoodnight recommendation.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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