KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
First
Kiss: When Should I Kiss Her?
Things are going great on your date. You and
she have had fun, great conversation and you like her a lot.
Should you try to kiss her? The first date kiss is always a
bit of a conundrum.
Some say you should never try to get a kiss on the first date,
and others say that if she seems willing, why not? Your best
bet is to check your own feelings and check her body language
to see if a kiss is in order.
If you really sincerely like her, and you think a kiss is
appropriate, then from your side of the equation, it’s okay.
If you’re iffy about how you feel about her after the date
and you’re not certain you’re planning to ask for a second
date, then don’t bother - it might confuse her and lead to
problems in the future. If you aren’t into her, leave kissing
and everything else alone.
Next, you
need to be aware of signals that she’s sending.
If she’s leaning in, that’s a pretty sure sign that she’s into
you and would like a kiss. If the two of you are cuddled close
with your arms around each other, it’s a safe bet she’d give
you a green light.
If she’s affectionately touching you on the hand, arm or shoulders,
you can try a kiss. Some women don’t bother with innuendo and
simply ask for a kiss. If so, you’re in luck. But remember,
it’s okay for her to ask, but not so much for you to
ask. You
need to relax and wait for her signal.
Having said all of that, there is a school of thought that
says you should be a complete gentleman and not kiss her on
the first date regardless. This might gain points for you as
a sincerely nice person, since every girl knows that the bad
boys will go in for the kill as soon as possible.
If you refrain from trying to kiss her, it’s possible that
she’ll view you as a gentleman, but it will also intrigue her
a bit and make her wonder if you like her as much as she likes
you. There’s nothing wrong with letting her wonder – it’s part
of the dating game, too.
You can substitute taking her hand in yours and telling her
what a great time you had. You can even give her a gentle peck
on the forehead or the cheek. Some women consider this especially
sweet, but they’re still left wondering a little, and in this
case, that’s good.
That first kiss is always an anticipation-filled event. But
if your timing is off, or if she isn’t into you yet, you’re
going to end up disappointed. It’s better to wait for the right
signals, and be aware of how you feel, too. If you’re into
each other, it will happen at the right time under the right
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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