KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
Hey
Nice Guys, You Can’t Buy Love
Here’s a common problem that nice guys face:
they think that because they’re the nice guy and not the bad
boy (who seems to get all the girls), they have to buy their
way into a girl’s heart.
That’s just not so, and you need to know that you could find
yourself becoming unattractive to a woman if you’re inclined
to shower her with inappropriately large or frequent gifts
for no apparent reason.
All women like gifts and remembrances. Guys do, too! But there’s
a not-so-thin line that you need to be certain not to cross
when you’re trying to impress a woman. Splurging on your date
to impress her is going to have the opposite effect that you
want it to have.
You’re wondering if you can give her any gifts now, aren’t
you? Of course you can. Here are some guidelines to help keep
you from going overboard:
First
date – you don’t have to take any gift to her, but if you
do, make it small. A single flower (from the florist,
not the gas station) is great. Small special boxes of chocolates
usually work well, too. Get these from a real candy store and
have it wrapped with a nice ribbon. Do not give her knick-knacks,
coffee mugs, Bassett hound figurines, or bottles of hard liquor
– these are not appropriate “small” gifts.
After
you’ve gone out a few times and you know you like her, if
you feel the need to give her a gift again, keep it small
and simple like a nice bottle of wine with dinner. You might
scare her off if you show up at her door for a third or fourth
date with jewelry in a Tiffany box. You shouldn’t even consider a more significant gift until
you and she have made some sort of commitment to each other,
such as exclusive dating. Then you can move up the gift ladder
slowly.
Gifts of any monetary or symbolic significance should wait
until a serious relationship has formed. Women are a bit confusing
this way. They want you to show affection and attention, but
they don’t want to feel smothered or like you’re marking your
territory or buying ownership of them.
When you give small remembrances, it tells a woman that you’re
thinking of her enough to stop by the flower shop and pick
out a pretty flower especially for her. It also tells her that
even though you like her, you’re easing into this whole dating
relationship thing and you want her to feel comfortable and
not rushed.
If you feel the need to give expensive or large gifts in order
to sweep her off her feet, take a few minutes and a few deep
breaths. Remind yourself that if you truly want to impress
her, you’re better off doing it slowly and at a relaxed pace.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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