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Ice
Breakers: How To Meet Your Girl
It’s never a good idea to walk up to a woman
and say, “Are you tired? Because you’ve been running through
my mind all day.” Openers like that are sure to make your intended
target run in the other direction.
So what do you say as your opening line, and how can you say
it so that you don’t come off as an idiot? First, don’t pre-plan
your icebreakers. They’ll sound forced and your potential date
will not be impressed.
Stay away from anything cheesy and even the over-used, “Don’t
I know you from somewhere?” There are better ways to break
the ice and get a conversation started.
At Work:
- Offer
to help. If she’s carrying something, setting something
up, taking something down, or otherwise doing something
that
it looks like she might appreciate some assistance with,
offer it.
- Ask
her something. Ask her if she knows where the mechanical
pencils are stored or if she has the phone number for
the Rochester branch, or if you could borrow her packing
tape (then return
it with your thanks and a cup of coffee).
- Compliment
her. Tell her that you thought she did a great job with
the presentation or that you like
the way she handled
that rude customer, or that you thought the joke
she told in the break room was really funny.
- Ask
her to help you. Ask her to show you how to do something
on the
computer, or to explain how pro-rated
vacation time
works.
At the Gym, Bark Park, Book Club, Cooking Class, Etc.:
- Smile
and say, “Have you ever tried the spinning class? I’m thinking
of trying it.”
- If
you’re at the Bark Park, compliment her four legged friend
such as saying, “Nice puppy. Is he purebred?”
- At
the library, ask, “How do you feel about this book? I’m having
a love/hate relationship with the main character.”
- If
you’re in a class together in college or for a specific skill,
ask, “Have you enjoyed the class so far? My friends
are pretty impressed with my newfound cooking abilities!”
At the Bar:
- Say,
“Gosh it’s loud in here, isn’t it?” Or ask what time the
bar closes. You don’t have to seem like you’re trying to
meet her – she just happens to be the one you start talking
to.
You’ll get far more points for noticing that she could use
a hand or that she has a cute dog, or that she has a nice smile
than if you try to come off as some sort of misguided Don Juan.
Pick up lines and cheesy icebreakers seldom work. If you need
to practice and think of possible lines in order to be prepared
for any chance that might present itself, that’s fine, but
you have to remain flexible and relaxed so that you don’t sound
like you were just waiting to use that line on the first girl
that happened to come along.
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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