KissMeGoodnight
Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!
What
Traits Do You Present To Single Women?
When entering the dating pool, you have some
options in regards to who you want to “be.” It’s pretty important
to remember that being yourself is your best bet, but you might
want to be the enhanced or special edition you.
This doesn’t mean you have to be fake, but you might want
to dig a little and play up some of the traits you have, but
might not feel comfortable using on a regular basis – things
like courage, excitement, and playfulness. You need to find
all those cool characteristics you have and not be afraid to
make them part of the bigger picture.
This is a bit like acting. It’s well known that actors draw
from their own personalities and experiences when they’re in
character. What happens often is that actors exaggerate some
of their own traits in order to pull off being someone else
on screen.
Look at Jim Carrey – an extremely funny guy, who can be serious,
too. But do you think he’s Ace Ventura at home? Not all the
time, but you can bet that Ace has always been lurking around
in that guy’s persona.
Don’t decide you’re Vin Diesel if you’re really a stamp collector
(there’s nothing wrong with that either, by the way). Take
stock of all of your personality traits, even the ones that
don’t come out that often.
If you have a great sense of humor, but don’t get to use it
often, see what you can do about that. Women love to laugh.
If you have a daring side, but think that might be a bit over
the top, think about ways you could show that side without
scaring your date.
Keep in mind that there are some traits that a girl will look
for in any man. These are courage, confidence, self-control,
a sense of fun, being comfortable with himself (sort of like
confidence), curiosity and respect for himself and others.
Do you possess those characteristics? You most likely do,
and you should strive to bring those to the forefront when
trying to attract a nice, desirable woman. If you don’t think
you have them, find ways to work on bringing those things out
in your life. You may have to use the “fake it ‘till you make
it” philosophy.
If you always feel like you’re going to vomit because of the
anxiety of talking to a new woman, or say something idiotic
the very second you get near a girl you like, you have to fix
that situation. One way to do it is by creating your persona,
and practicing it.
Again, think of it as acting. Don’t try to become a totally
different person. Try to become you – the special edition,
which means that all of your best qualities are out there,
and you’re not afraid to use them!
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by KissMeGoodnight.com
: 2008
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