KissMeGoodnight Article Series: Nice Guy Dating
I Just Want a Great Woman, Dammit!

Nice Guys Seek Nice Girls -
Defining Yourself & Her

We all know that just like there are men who will sleep with any woman, any time, for any reason, there are also women like that. Certainly, who you sleep with, and for what reason is personal - and I’m not here to pass judgment.

But again, if you’re reading this, it’s probably because you’re a decent guy who’s looking for a decent girl who isn’t into tossing back a few shots and going home with the first guy she sees through her beer (or shot) goggles.

So, what are you looking for in a woman? As a nice guy looking for a nice girl, it’s extremely important for you to have an idea of what you want. To find out who you’re looking for, it’s best to start with yourself.

Some say that you need someone who is your opposite; others say you need someone who’s a lot like you. The truth is probably somewhere in between. We need contrast, but we also need things in common.

Take some time to think about what’s important to you. If being filthy rich is important to you, don’t pick a simple-living girl who has a problem with people who live a lifestyle of the rich and famous.

Likewise, if your favorite thing to do in the whole world is camp in the mountains, you might want to find a girl who at least likes being outdoors part of the time, not a whiny woman who can’t get her hands dirty or plug in her hair-dryer on a weekend campout.

You need to define your own values before you can create your dream girl. Maybe you value spirituality. Or health and fitness. Or education, or adventure and risk-taking.

You can learn a lot about who you’re looking for by defining your own values. Remember though, you don’t need to find someone just like you. In fact, it’s probably better if you don’t.

Back to the question, “What are you looking for in a woman?”

Is she:

• Spiritual/Religious?
• Adventuresome?
• A Homebody?
• Excited About Having Kids?
• Athletic?
• Family Oriented?
• Self-sufficient/Independent?
• Feisty?
• Sweet?
• Great at Poker/Charades/Volleyball/Building a Campfire?
• Lazy on Saturday Mornings?
• Intelligent?
• Quiet and Reserved?
• Boisterous?

You get the idea. Now go define your perfect woman, keeping in mind that your she probably won’t have all of the qualities you think you want, but you might not match all on her list, either.

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KissMeGoodnight.com : 2008